I am NOT patient of the year!

Community Leader
Registered: 12-21-2001
I am NOT patient of the year!
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Wed, 03-07-2012 - 2:48pm

Even though I could hardly speak a word.

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Registered: 06-25-2008
Thu, 03-08-2012 - 9:08am

That's a very interesting point to bring up. It seems you hear so often that if you lose weight you'll magically have more friends, that perfect job opportunity will come up, you'll have more money, etc. But you rarely (if ever) hear from someone who has lost weight and suddenly life was perfect. In fact, most people eventually wind up right back where they started.

I think the key is that you have to discover something about yourself that you like and build on that. Everyone has something, it's just finding it that seems to be the problem.

Brenda

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Registered: 10-12-2006
Fri, 03-09-2012 - 9:11am
i was actually thinking about this very issue yesterday, in terms of marriage - how there seems to be this notion that "everything will be perfect once i get married". um, nope. you're still the same person. or if you're unhappy in your marriage and you think a divorce will solve everything - wrong again. you're still the same person. so it's best to just work on yourself (in therapy or on your own) and how you think about situations; a lot of times, it's your own way of thinking that's getting in your way.

my key is, be happy NOW. not in five minutes, not tomorrow, not when you lose five pounds. those future events may never come, so enjoy and be grateful for what you do have.

but i wonder, though - are people afraid to be happy? what do you think?
Community Leader
Registered: 12-21-2001
Sat, 03-10-2012 - 10:26am
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Registered: 12-21-2001
Sat, 03-10-2012 - 10:36am

I don't think it's people afraid to be happy as much as it is people not knowing when or what to be happy about.

Example, you leave for work before the sun is up, if you are driving East the only good thing about the sunrise is that it is a little warmer.

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Registered: 10-12-2006
Mon, 03-12-2012 - 8:15am
okay, maybe not afraid, but confused. i think part of it may come from watching too much TV - if i'm watching TV, i'm not really engaging in the world around me which can make me feel depressed after a while. but if i turn off the TV (or computer)and go out and socialize or get busy (work on a project, etc.), i feel so much better. i don't have anything telling me how/when to be happy; i just am. so i guess another key of mine is turn off the TV/computer and go DO something.
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Registered: 03-20-2009
Tue, 03-13-2012 - 1:36pm

Hey MLK,

I think that is one of the reasons I developed my ED.



Community Leader
Registered: 12-21-2001
Tue, 03-13-2012 - 8:38pm

But you are making progress toward

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Registered: 05-06-2007
Wed, 03-14-2012 - 11:05am

My "key" is to remind myself of the difference between "need" and "want".

Community Leader
Registered: 12-21-2001
Mon, 03-19-2012 - 7:26pm

Greetings n2ishn,

Recently a good friend, chronically obese with her illnesses

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