Lonely

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Registered: 03-04-2011
Lonely
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Fri, 03-04-2011 - 10:17pm

I don't understand what's wrong with me. I feel like I have no friends and that the friends that we have are only friends with us b/c of my husband. I really don't bring anything special to the table. I'm not cultured & I didn't go to college.

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Registered: 10-12-2006
In reply to: ashcap
Sun, 03-06-2011 - 2:13pm

hey, ashcap, i'm really glad you wrote about this because i was thinking about it this morning. i also sometimes feel like i have no friends and the ones i do have are through my husband, and my husband is also younger than me (he's in his late 20s and i'm in my mid-30s). so, thank you so much for posting :) but i do have some hobbies which enable me to at least be around other people, even if i wouldn't consider them my friends, know what i mean? i play volleyball and racquetball and am really into cake decorating, so i meet people that way. we may not be friends, but there is that common interest, and my husband has no desire to do any of those so it's like my "me time". do you have hobbies/interests that are separate from your husband's? what about your job - is there anybody there that you like or get along with well?

i think it's totally normal to feel this way sometimes - it's a really common topic on this board, actually. just try to think of things that interest you or that would interest you. and, no, you don't have a major personality disorder, so don't worry :)

thank you again for posting, and welcome to the board!

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Registered: 03-04-2011
In reply to: ashcap
Sun, 03-06-2011 - 9:18pm
Thank you for your response. I don't really have any outside interests or hobbies. But that is something I really need to find something.
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Registered: 10-12-2006
In reply to: ashcap
Mon, 03-07-2011 - 8:09am
you're welcome, and you're definitely not alone. maybe start thinking about things that might interest you (check out your local community college's website for non-credit courses, for example), or take a look through all of the different message boards on this site; there are a lot of hobby boards. i think that everyone has something to bring to the table, but sometimes you have to dig a little deeper to figure out what you've got.
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Registered: 01-03-2001
In reply to: ashcap
Wed, 03-09-2011 - 12:42pm
Hi Ash, I'm mid 40's myself and most of my friends are saying the same thing..they are lonely. I have to wonder how much is age related. Do you belong to a gym or anything? Maybe a new social outlet and a new friend or two might help.

Karla
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