Self esteem issues and career

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Registered: 04-11-2003
Self esteem issues and career
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Wed, 06-22-2011 - 9:46pm

Hi,

I hope this is the right place to post this.

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Registered: 10-12-2006
Fri, 06-24-2011 - 11:50am
Hi, mspriss. Sure, you've come to the right place! Everybody gets jealous sometimes - jealousy is just a form of fear, which is part of human nature. So, you are being perfectly human. However, I'm not sure I understand how you feel about your coworker, and I hope you can help me out here. You say that you're jealous of her, but from what you wrote it sounds more like you resent her for goofing off and doing half-assed work. Unless you also feel that she's prettier, smarter, etc. than you? That's usually where the jealousy shows up.

I think most people are afraid to get close to others, for different reasons. It's hard to open up, but you have to keep trying. Maybe think about some things to talk about that don't "expose" you (like sports or politics). Also, do you have any hobbies or interests outside of work?

Do you know the details of your boss's resignation? She might have been fired and that's why she's not talking to anybody. Try not to take it personally or jump to conclusions because that creates a lot of unnecessary stress.

Thanks for baring your soul, and feel free to ramble here any time!
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Registered: 04-11-2003
Sat, 06-25-2011 - 5:03pm

Hi,

Thanks for your response.

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Registered: 10-12-2006
Mon, 06-27-2011 - 11:51am
you're welcome. i'm glad you figured out that things aren't always what they seem :) a lot of people at my work talk about kids and families, too, which i also don't have, so i have to be a little more creative (i think kids are the "default" topic of conversation - it doesn't take much energy to talk about them). so i talk about pets (do you have any?), movies (what genres do you like?), seasonal stuff (summer vacation, maybe, or the holidays at wintertime), maybe things that are happening locally or traffic conditions (there is a lot of construction in our area). i used to also assume that people didn't like me, but then i realized that i wasn't giving myself a fair chance. i have as much of a right as anybody else to be liked, know what i mean? and so do you.