smiling face

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Registered: 11-08-2004
smiling face
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Wed, 09-14-2011 - 11:26am

This had been happening for a long time without my knowledge. Most of the people have been asking me will I ever smile. Although I am just as usual in a normal way, but people who looked at my face thought I am in a angry mood & feel afraid to look or talk to me.

I am also not so good in socialising & do not have much friends. How do i make people understand my actual expression? I hope anyone can answer me.

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Registered: 10-01-2003
In reply to: muthup
Wed, 09-14-2011 - 11:17pm
Maybe without realizing it you are making a face that looks mad. My mom and I have had the same problem and people have said that to us too. I try to smile more. I'm not working now, but at work I would make extra sure I had a happy face on. I've found that if I'm actually happy on the inside, it will show on my face without effort.

As far as socializing, I'm not so great at that either. I'm a bit shy. Maybe someone else will have some advice
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Registered: 10-12-2006
In reply to: muthup
Fri, 09-16-2011 - 8:18am
My facial expression is serious 99% of the time. It scares away the wimps, lol. I used to try and smile more but it just felt fake to me. I'm happy on the inside but I'm usually thinking about a thousand different things at once, and I'm pretty reserved, but I try to say hello to everyone I meet (passing in the halls at work or whatever). Do you guys say hi to people?
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Registered: 10-01-2003
In reply to: muthup
Sat, 09-17-2011 - 12:58pm

Well, it was only an issue for me to people I didn't know well.

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Registered: 10-12-2006
In reply to: muthup
Sun, 09-18-2011 - 4:30pm
That's true; if you're in sales or other customer-focused work then you have to smile even if your feet hurt. I worked in retail for ten years and hated having to smile, smile, smile all the time; that's why I don't do it anymore :) I think if you're really worried about people having a good first impression of you then practice smiling in the mirror all the time and practice making small talk with people whom you're familiar with (spouse/family/coworkers you see all the time) until you're comfortable with yourself.
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Registered: 10-12-2006
In reply to: muthup
Wed, 09-21-2011 - 8:36am
hey, for what it's worth- i was reading dear abby's column this morning, and she mentioned her booklet "how to be popular." it costs $6; you just send a business-size self-addressed envelope plus check or money order to dear abby - popularity booklet, PO box 447, mount morris, illinois, 61054-0447 (postage is included in the $6).

i'm sure it's all common-sense because her advice ALWAYS is!