Is there an age when you just accept yourself

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Registered: 08-25-2013
Is there an age when you just accept yourself
Sun, 09-08-2013 - 10:41am

Is there some magic age where you just wake up one day and say, I am what I am and I am okay with me or does it get worse with age because of regrets and missed opportunities?

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Registered: 01-04-2004
Mon, 09-09-2013 - 10:21am

i don't think there's a magic age; i'm 36 and have realized that there's no point in trying to change the past, but i know people in their 60s and beyond who are still living with regrets. when i was about to turn 30 i was down on myself for having a fair amount of student loans, and i was like, why in the world did i go to grad school, i should've known better, etc., etc. but my dad gave me an awesome piece of advice - he said that i'd made the best decision that i could with the information that i had at the time. that was so powerful to me and i haven't regretted any decisions from that point on. regretting your past closes you off to the future that awaits you (i know that sounds cheesy but it makes sense if you think about it), and i'd rather live for what's to come than for what's already happened. but that's enough about me, lol. what do you think? are you regretting some past decisions that you've made?

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999
Thu, 09-19-2013 - 1:55pm

I'm sure it depends a  lot on the individual, but I do remember reading a study about happiness and they said that people over 60 were very happy.  I'm 56 and I do think that we accept ourselves more as we get older.  I mean at this point, I'm not going to change who I am to get anyone to like me.  I could have made some different decisions in the past and maybe things would have worked out better but there's no point in regretting what was done since you can't go back & do it over.

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Registered: 10-22-2001
Sun, 09-22-2013 - 4:36pm

I don't think it was an age but an event...At forty-nine I had a heart attack and since I loss my beloved Mom to one I think that's when I really began to accept myself kwim?

Life is too short...