Wow am I a complainer/whiner!

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Registered: 11-17-2006
Wow am I a complainer/whiner!
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Thu, 02-02-2012 - 9:18pm

In between work today, I took time to browse through old posts of mine. I am amazed at how much I complain! And just about every post has been about the same issues for almost a

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Registered: 05-08-2006
Thu, 02-02-2012 - 9:37pm
I have never visited this board before - saw your post on the main board page and came here - so I don't know if you are a whiner:). But I wanted to comment on your not driving at night. I am a very nervous driver for several reasons, and I really limit my night driving. I feel badly about it too..but I always think of how horrible I would feel if I hit a child or caused an accident. I would know that I had exceeded my limitations and even if it were truly an accident, I would never get over it. Cars to me are a necessary evil because we have relatively horrible mass transit in most of our country. But they are dangerous too, and I think it takes tremendous courage to accept a limitation and not risk others lives. I commend you for that. SJ
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Registered: 11-17-2006
Fri, 02-03-2012 - 10:56am

Thank you for your response. I have actually been in 3 accidents (one a fender bender within days of getting my license, one major accident which caused my car to flip over upside down, and one sideswipe, where I misjudged the distance of the car in front of me when I merged to that lane).

This month is 10 years since that major accident. That took time to get over and I'm happy to say that I don't think about it anymore when I drive. The sideswipe was 3 years ago and so it is more on my mind. And it does bother me especially when I drove a few weeks ago and nearly hit a car as I was changing lanes to the right. I can tell that something isn't quite right peripherally with my vision but unfortunately, no dr. takes me seriously given that my visual acuity is actually right around 20/20 CV.

I do still drive at night - locally only. I'm proud to have expanded my driving range at night to a train station where I can park my car and then take the train to my college town in the county or to the city. At least now, I have a little more independence instead of having my parents pick me up. Of course, now that I've worked a lot in the past year or so, I can "afford" to take cabs home at night as well.

I limit driving at night for the same reasons as you stated. I just feel it's the responsible, moral thing to do. I just wish I could find more people in my life who would try to understand when I say that I can't drive at night and be more willing to either give me rides or plan stuff in my area so that I'm not left out as much.

Do you know where your fear comes from? Check out the driving fear program - www.drivingfear.com. It's good. In my case, I don't have a driving phobia per say, it's more of a physical challenge due to my vision. How do you get around your inability to drive? I'm lucky that I live in an area with really good public transportation (busses, trains).

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Registered: 10-12-2006
Fri, 02-03-2012 - 5:59pm

hey, benilaw - what about riding your bike at night? or is that totally out of the question (i don't know what kind of a town you live in)?