36 year old virgin; abnormal papsmear; scared & taking the sit & wait approach

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Registered: 10-10-2003
36 year old virgin; abnormal papsmear; scared & taking the sit & wait approach
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Sun, 09-16-2012 - 6:34pm

I went to my 1st gyno visit to check on my first painful cyst that landed me in the ER 2 1/2 months ago. The 1st gyno visit I ever had I had my first papsmear and this cold unfeeling male specialist with a godlike complex tells me my test came back with "normal cells" but with high risk HPV. He tehn told me over the phone to make an ppt in 3 months to re do another papsmear since my cells are normal but to montior the HPV status on my report. Well when I went back to see him again a 2nd time, I gently looked at my gyno the 1st one ever in my life at the follow up visit & sonogram to check on my cyst that could it be possible that my abnormal papsmear was made or reported in error by the lab. OMG how dare I question this gyno's expertise god forbid, that I asked if this test was made in error.
I am a virgin, I do not masturbate, I do not use any toys down there, did I repeat I do not have a bf which mean I have no oral sex of any kind & no intercourse of any sorts with anyone. How does 36 year old NUN like my self end up with HPV & have a gyno accusing me that there is no other way that test could have picked up HPV when CLEARLY I told him I am NOT sexually active in any way not even with myself. This gyno was an old fashion jackass who would not let me get a word in edgewise.

Should I wait till 3 months later to get another papsmear test with a brand new female gyno since this male gyno left a bad taste in my mouth & practically scolded me for not knowing about any of this stuff & scaring me by saying I may have cancer even though my cells on the test came back all normal??? I read shaving/inflammation or irritation like yeast infection can pick up  & mask a test that's highly sensitive like a papsmear to read HPV as well. But the nurse who sonogramed my cyst this past saturday at my 2nd visit  quietly nudged me & said the test may well be made or test in error, she said definitely a screw up on our or the labs part & kind of walked away from me cause she saw me sweating beads.

Would it be wise to get another papsmear test  so soon, cause I had this papsmear test done about 3 weeks or so ago??

Something is screaming at me to wait the lousy 3 months which would be around december & get papsmeared by a  new female gyno cause this 1st one humiliated me & left me nerve wracked with guilt the jerk. Why are specialist such unfeeling monsters. I get your all overworked & overbooked with patients but have a heart & treat us like human beings even on your bad days :-(.

Does anyone else have a similar story like me? Or has gone through this type of stuff?? many thanks

Thanks for helping me out & listening to my plight.

Community Leader
Registered: 10-08-2002
Oh, I'm so sorry you have had to go through that. That doc seems like a royal jerk. They are out there. I'm sure most of us have encountered them. Definitely move on and fine another. There are so many wonderful doctors out there, male and female. I've had good and bad of both!

For your peace of mind, I would find a new doctor and get retested. Then you won't have to think or worry about it over the next 3 months.

(((hugs)))

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iVillage Member
Registered: 10-10-2003

Hello CinderKitty,

 

I found a new gyno this time a female NOT a male. Called up lab that ran my papsmear & ask them if an error was made or if the test was run twice because it cited DELAY on my lab report.

 

So when I called and ask the lab they said yes they ran the test twice with same specimen & the results came out the same. And then the lab associate suggested to wait the allotted 3 months to have a new papsmear done then rather than rush to have another papsmear done so soon after 3 weeks time.

 

She also mention my immune system could have been down at the time which could have cause the test to come back positive AND she mentioned that there are numers "strains" version of this HPV not ncessarily cancer oriented she said. Then she said to me that my cells came out negative for maligency & lesions which meant that I ONLY could have the virus that is NOT serious & that it would clear up on its own.

 

All this being said I still told her I was beyond nervous & the fact that this male gyno strongly insisted & asked me over and over again to the point of accusing me of being a secret trollop that the only way to get HPV is through sexual contact boy I never cried so hard trying to swear to my family that I am still a nun & everything is in tact that NOTHING no fooling around of any sort has happened by myself or of another other person & luckily for my family they believe me but this gyno made me feel like absolute dirt.

 

Now I anxiously wait till December 2012 to meet my new female gyno & see if she will be able to get papsmear from me even though I'm still technically a virgin up there. I am sorry for the graphically putting my business out there in this post like this. I am ashamed at my age a virgin like me ends up having to ask for embarrsing advice like this which I know is get a 2nd opinion I know that but was told by  gyno & my own primary care doctor to wait 3 months as well to let what ever was picked up on the test to  go away on its own. He said please don't go rushing head long into unnecsaary worry & procedures.

 

Again has anyone gone through what I am going through or have I posted this in the wrong area?? Any advice or sugesstions deeply welcomed.

 

Thank you all & CinderKitty for you help & for reading & answering my newbie type my questions.

Community Leader
Registered: 10-08-2002
No need to be embarrassed here. We are all women, just wanting answers.

Sounds like good news regarding the strain. Hopefully in 3 months, all will be well and you can move on.

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Registered: 01-01-2006

I had a similar situation today. I had my pap done about a week ago and today the call from a female nurse. She left me several message  she wanted to talk to me and that everything was ok. Like I have not had sex in any type of form. I was very upset when she kept insisting me if I had any variations of sex since the findings were in my cervix. Sure I had a history with genital warts ever since I was little but if made me really uncomftarble when she said I believe me but is highly impossible to have those in your cervix.  I am right now in shock, disgust and really angry with her words on her accusation of me calling me a liar. Ever since I had the pap done I have this feeling of regret that I should have not done it but me being 30 and being a modern woman who is in charge of her health proceeded to after some unsual behaviour on my body during these past 4 years including hyperthyroidism and my diabetes after years of chaos has normalize in the past 3  years. It really bother me her tone and it made me feel disgusting.  I recall that during my pap I blackout everything with the exception of that cold and stretching thing inside. Not to forget what really hurted me the most was the digital test. I felt as if I was rape in that moment with her intensity. To be honest I was prepare for the metal thing but not for the digital part. I tried talking to the nurse in seeing what other ways could that had happen genetics, health conditions but she kept on insisting that it only through sex. I have never felt so disgusted, angry and insulted in my entire life.