I'm so embarrassed and ashamed

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-02-2011
I'm so embarrassed and ashamed
Wed, 02-02-2011 - 10:20am

I'm a 40-some year old woman and I hate to admit that I haven't had a gynecological exam for at least a couple of years. I do plan on finding a new doctor of course, and soon.

I am embarrassed to also admit to the fact that I truly have no idea of what I am looking for when doing a self-breast exam.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-12-2006
Wed, 02-02-2011 - 11:42am

i haven't been to my primary care doctor for a general checkup in 4 years, mostly because of insurance changes, but i keep putting it off. i'm embarrassed to admit that i have no idea what my cholesterol looks like, but of course i worry about it all the time, instead of just making an appointment. you're definitely not alone!

when my gynecologist does a breast exam, she presses firmly (not enough to hurt, but enough that you feel the pressure). she checks for anything that feels hard, like a pebble or a frozen pea, and anything that feels unusual (everybody is different, but the tissue should feel the same throughout). if you have pain, you should mention it to your primary care doctor; they are good at looking at body parts as just body parts and nothing more. he is there to help you feel better, and he's seen it all, so you won't be telling him anything he hasn't heard before. or you could make a gynecological appointment ASAP; sometimes pain is just a psychosomatic reminder that it's time for a checkup. good luck :)

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-07-2007
Wed, 02-02-2011 - 4:18pm
Don't be embarrassed, it happens. In fact, it was two years between my appointments. The doctors understand too that sometimes things come up, insurance lapses, etc. But as long as you're getting in as soon as you can, which it sounds like you're doing, then you're probably ok.

Ask the doctor what you need to be watchful for while doing a self-exam. A lot of offices have what looks like a necklace of beads or they might have an artificial breast with a lump in it, so you can know what to be looking for when you do your exam.

I hope the pain has subsided and is not indicative of anything serious.

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Registered: 10-08-2002
Fri, 02-04-2011 - 10:06pm



iVillage Member
Registered: 02-19-2005
Fri, 02-11-2011 - 5:20pm

As the others have stated, there's no reason to be ashamed/embarrassed.

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