Too small to safely have a baby?

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Registered: 07-21-2007
Too small to safely have a baby?
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Tue, 03-20-2012 - 12:47pm

Hi There,

I am 24, and last night my bf and I had the baby discussion. We have been together 3 years this coming July, living together since 2010, and know marriage is in our future.It's just a matter of when he is ready. Well last night he asked me what I would think if he asked me to stop taking the pill. (I've been on the pill since I was 15) He said its something hes been thinking about lately, and he knows I am the one he wants to settle down with and be with forever. He said he may not be ready to say I do, but he doesn't believe in a broken home, so marriage is definite.We both are fine with having a child before marriage.I brought up finances and he reminded me,he has a good paying ,stable job and I would recieve mat leave starting at 6 months along in the pregnancy, then a year after the baby is born. Well we aren't planning anything for the immediate future, and my main worry above all else is my size!!

Community Leader
Registered: 10-08-2002
Fri, 03-23-2012 - 11:58am
Hello there!

I can understand your concern though I really don't think you have anything to worry about. I'm only 5'0 tall and have had two babies just fine. Plus, people who are dwarfs and much smaller than you have babies all the time. Your hips will naturally widen as the baby gets bigger to allow for passage through the birth canal. It can be quite uncomfortable and painful, I'm not going to lie! In the end, your hips still may be to narrow and you will have to have a c-section. But, none of this will affect your ability to carry the baby. You'll be just fine!!

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Registered: 07-21-2007
Sat, 03-24-2012 - 1:47pm

Thanks for responding. I am sure I will be fine, as there are plenty of smaller people that have carried and delivered children, I just envision myself bedridden after the 6th month or so and not being able to walk. I explained my fears to my bf last night, as I am also concerned that I could end up with a

Community Leader
Registered: 10-08-2002
Sat, 03-24-2012 - 9:48pm
Wasn't it Heidi Klum that did the Victoria's Secret runway show 6 weeks after giving birth? If you want it back, it will come back but you might have to work for it. Stretch marks fade. Honestly, once you have the child, most likely these things won't matter as much. Most women would gladly sacrifice their body for their child. It really changes your perspective on things. But, your body will change so if you aren't ready for that, you may want to wait until you are.

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Registered: 07-21-2007
Sun, 03-25-2012 - 12:58pm

lol yes she did do a runway show shortly after giving birth, but maybe she had to pay in order to be able to do that lol ie. Plastic surgery.I have no problem if I have to work to get my body back, I am sure I won't become a beast or anything, I was a competitive gymnast before I became too old lol so I am not afraid of a little workout.I'll just make sure my bf gets fat along with me, then I won't feel as bad haha.

I just have this one friend who had a baby and she went from average size, to literally a monster. She gained 150 lbs and almost developed a hunch back, she just exploded, and she has never been able to lose all that weight and honestly looks like hell compared to before having the baby. And now her child is pushing 5. And she doesn't even have custody him. (so i think its laziness on her part for still looking the way she does) I know I won't gain that much weight obviously but still, seeing what having a baby can do to some people freaks me out.I know once the baby arrives none of that will matter, its just pushing past those fears in the beginning I guess.

Community Leader
Registered: 10-08-2002
Sun, 03-25-2012 - 10:12pm
Oh gosh, I feel bad for your friend. Maybe some underlying health issues? That's really not the norm though. I gained 35 pounds with each pregnancy and lost all but 5-10 pounds. That is just laziness on my part! Well, and partly age. It just doesn't come off as easily once you hit 30. With your athletic history, I don't see it being an issue.

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Registered: 07-21-2007
Mon, 03-26-2012 - 2:49pm

Well I had my annual PAP today and brought up the baby thing, she said I will be totally fine and most likely have a small baby.She said there would not be any risk of danger however because I am so tiny I could encounter problems and I would just need more ultrasounds and checkups than usual.

It was an interesting exam however, one of the least uncomfortable I've ever had, yet she spent about ten minutes trying to locate my cervix. She had to use 3 different speculums before finding it. Then it kept disappearing! Eventually she found it and all was good, but she made the comment that my cervix is very anterior and at the front.I don't know what she meant by that, and I didn't get the chance to ask.She also said my cervix is right dead center...also wasnt sure what that meant lol Any thoughts?

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Registered: 10-08-2002
Mon, 03-26-2012 - 8:39pm
Hmm, interesting. Never thought it would be a difficult thing to find! I wonder if your uterus is tilted. It's not a big deal but it can cause your cervix to point in a different direction, up towards your bladder. Your cervix can also be higher and lower depending on where you are in your cycle. If she was going to make a comment like that, she could have at least explained it!

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