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i stay the same, wife gets huge
| Mon, 10-25-2010 - 11:47am |
hey there, i got married a few years ago to a "bigger girl" who has gained even more weight.
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Hello Chatguy,I am speaking from a woman's point of view,you say at the time you were married she was a 'bigger girl',and apparently her weight was not an issue,so why now that she has gained even more weight,you have a problem with it,why is that,she is the same woman you married and promised to love her,honor her,thru sickness and in health,have you thought of talking to her about it,maybe she has something medically wrong that has caused her to gain weight,just to let you know,I too gained almost a 100 pounds in the 21 years I have been married,and it was because I had severe
Wow..you are in a tough predicament.
Divorce the fat pig!!!!
I have two simple questions here: 1) Has she expressed the desire to lose weight and, if so, in what ways have you tried to support her? 2) Is your concern for her weight gain centered around her appearance or the concern for her health?
I'm in the same boat, but I'm the wife who has gained the weight. My hubby was very hard on me our 1st yr of marriage. Atleast from my point of view. He thought he was being supportive by asking "you aren't going to eat that?" or "should you eat that?" Variations in different ways. He meant to be supportive, I just sunk deeper. Truly the best way is to love her with your words, touch, little gifts that don't include food, time with her and you doing little things to show her you care. Forget the weight for just a bit. Win her heart all over again, then you can be her sweetheart that loves her unconditionally.
Yikes!
"Never run faster than your guardian angel can fly!"
Michael,
That was rather rude of you, don't you think?
"Never run faster than your guardian angel can fly!"
Some women are just really good at coming up with a lot of reasons that its not their fault that their fat. People are fat for two reasons; they consume to many calories per day, and they get to little execise. All the reast, is BS.
It does make you a worse person. Your worse because you no longer take pride in your appearance, you no longer care about your health, and you no longer care about the first impression you make on people (which is now "whoa, she's fat").
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