i stay the same, wife gets huge

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Registered: 10-25-2010
i stay the same, wife gets huge
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Mon, 10-25-2010 - 11:47am

hey there, i got married a few years ago to a "bigger girl" who has gained even more weight.

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Registered: 12-12-2010
Mon, 12-13-2010 - 2:02am

Hello Chatguy,I am speaking from a woman's point of view,you say at the time you were married she was a 'bigger girl',and apparently her weight was not an issue,so why now that she has gained even more weight,you have a problem with it,why is that,she is the same woman you married and promised to love her,honor her,thru sickness and in health,have you thought of talking to her about it,maybe she has something medically wrong that has caused her to gain weight,just to let you know,I too gained almost a 100 pounds in the 21 years I have been married,and it was because I had severe

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Registered: 12-10-2010
Fri, 12-10-2010 - 3:00pm

Wow..you are in a tough predicament.

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Registered: 12-10-2010
Fri, 12-10-2010 - 1:56pm

Divorce the fat pig!!!!

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Registered: 01-06-2010
Sun, 12-05-2010 - 11:28am
This post was originally to someone else who posted something inappropriate. It has since been removed and I can't find an option to just delete my reply.
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Registered: 01-06-2010
Sun, 12-05-2010 - 11:23am

I have two simple questions here: 1) Has she expressed the desire to lose weight and, if so, in what ways have you tried to support her? 2) Is your concern for her weight gain centered around her appearance or the concern for her health?

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Registered: 12-04-2010
Sat, 12-04-2010 - 8:06pm

I'm in the same boat, but I'm the wife who has gained the weight. My hubby was very hard on me our 1st yr of marriage. Atleast from my point of view. He thought he was being supportive by asking "you aren't going to eat that?" or "should you eat that?" Variations in different ways. He meant to be supportive, I just sunk deeper. Truly the best way is to love her with your words, touch, little gifts that don't include food, time with her and you doing little things to show her you care. Forget the weight for just a bit. Win her heart all over again, then you can be her sweetheart that loves her unconditionally.

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Registered: 08-23-2008
Thu, 12-02-2010 - 9:57pm

Yikes!

"Never run faster than your guardian angel can fly!"

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Registered: 08-23-2008
Thu, 12-02-2010 - 9:45pm

Michael,

That was rather rude of you, don't you think?

"Never run faster than your guardian angel can fly!"

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Registered: 11-30-2010
Tue, 11-30-2010 - 11:31am

Some women are just really good at coming up with a lot of reasons that its not their fault that their fat. People are fat for two reasons; they consume to many calories per day, and they get to little execise. All the reast, is BS.

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Registered: 11-30-2010
Tue, 11-30-2010 - 11:29am

It does make you a worse person. Your worse because you no longer take pride in your appearance, you no longer care about your health, and you no longer care about the first impression you make on people (which is now "whoa, she's fat").

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