Backsliding

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Registered: 11-05-2008
Backsliding
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Fri, 05-24-2013 - 9:23pm

Ok. So, I fell off the face of the planet. Sorry about that. Really didn't mean to. Started a new job in November (with variable insane hours), moved officially in December, and then nanny found a position in her field at the end of January leaving us to start DS in preschool before we planned. Trying to settle into the new place nad job and schedule and all.

Weight-wise things were going really well.

Over the last year I lost 30 of the 40# I wanted to lose and was feeling pretty good about where I was and wan't too concerned abotu the last 10#. Given everything that seemed the way to go since I tend to obscess about food and losing weight or obscess about what I want to eat. However, over the last year I felt like I was having a good run of just eating to satisfy my hunger without all the extras and cravings and such. The problem is I have no idea why. I lost the first 10# over a month when I was sick with starting a new BCP and when I could eat again I initially made a point to stick with the mini portions that I had been using to keep the nausea under control. I wasn't specifically depriving myself of type of food or quantity .... I just wanted less (though I ate the same kids of food which for me is an extremely varied diet). So for the last 6 months (since starting the new job, I have (don't hate me) effortlessly kept the weight off. I didn't lose that extra 10# but like I said I felt like it wasn't a huge deal (for frame of reference, in college when I feel I was in shape and a good weight I was about 5-10# below my current goal so about 15# below what I had gotten to). Ok, so over the last 2-4 weeks the weight has been creeping back.I am back up about 5# (consistently, not just a spot check) and my clothes are fitting tighter. I know I need to add working out into my routine though I figured at this point it was to get rid of the last 10#, and I really want to start hiking. The problem is I am very heat sensitive and we are almost at the time of year that I can't take anything too strenuous outside. My schedule definitely doesn't allow the gym. And home workout is difficult with a 3-year old and the fact that whenever I am home without him pesky things like bills take all my time. 

I guess my biggest question is why all of a sudden do I want to eat continuously and poorly and the weight is coming back when it hasn't for 6 months!? (no I am not pregnant though that would be a happy reason for the weight gain but we are actively preventing ... and passively given my work schedule and the continuous cold that has been running through the house since DS started school :))

Thoughts, suggestions, explanations? I feel like if I understood why this was happening I might be able to come up with an action plan (or if I understood my success in the first place). I so don't want to be back where I was. I was feeling so great about my body even if it wasn't exactly where I wanted it! I have enough stress and depression in my life, I really don't want to add that back in. Maybe I need to get sick again (just kidding ... I can't stand nausea)!

Thanks for and thoughs or encouragement.

Siggie
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Registered: 01-17-2013
Sun, 05-26-2013 - 9:18am

Kristy, I tend to do this when I get tired or stressed. I go right back to the old habits I thought I had broken. I know when I am working long hours I tend to start shopping for shortcut meals and that usually means a lot of processed foods with high calories. The more tired I am, the more I snack. Make sure you are going to bed early enough and getting enough sleep.

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Registered: 11-05-2008
Thu, 06-06-2013 - 12:50pm

Heehee. The sleep thing is a bit difficult as I vary my schedule dramatically. In fact I would love to find some sort of advice for sleep for people in my position. Sometimes I work 7a-7p. Sometimes 7p-7a. Sometimes 2p-2a. Sometimes 12p-12a (my personal favorite but almost never happens since my coworker who's schedule I took over came back from maternity leave). And of course on the days I don't work I am on toddler time more or less. :) I try to eat healthy and actually i think paart of the reason I started gaining weight back is that on these 12 hour shifts I finially figured out how to sneak in actually eating. Previously I would go vast portions of my shift with no food other than caffinated beverages. I fixed that problem but the weight is now coming back.

Siggie
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Registered: 10-06-2010
Sun, 07-07-2013 - 10:52am

Kristy, I know it's been a month since you posted this and I hope you are doing better by now.  It seems that there aren't many people who can lose weight and maintain the loss long term.  It makes it seem like it's hardly worth bothering to try.  As you lose weight, your calorie requirements go down, too, and it makes it harder and harder to maintain when you have to continue to cut back.  I hate to say it, but it seems that once we are genetically programed to be overweight, nothing can change that permanently.  The only answer seems to be never starting the bad habits that cause you to gain in the first place.  My husband and his children's mother are both naturally thin, and the children, now in their 40's have never had a weight problem. When they were growing up, they ate their meals at home....healthy meals...did not have access to snack food or fast food restaurants  like many teens do.   But I have friends who are overweight, and even though their children were thin in childhood, they are now overweight as adults.  Did they learn bad habits from their parents and it caught up with them?  Or are they genetically inclined to be overweight because their parents are overweight?  

Your work schedule and young child make it much more difficult. I don't know what the answer is, but we just need to keep on trying!

Carol