What was the deciding factor?

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Registered: 01-16-2013
What was the deciding factor?
Mon, 02-04-2013 - 9:44am

I hope I am not bothering anyone but I am just wondering what was the deciding factor  for you to decide to start the process of weight loss surgery? Was it something you can pin point or did your path just lead to it? Thank you for your help.

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Registered: 12-17-1998
Mon, 02-04-2013 - 10:47am

I was tired of having problems going up and down stairs, walking any amount of time was difficult, and I was tired of having problems finding clothes that were attractive that fit well. Dieting wasn't working and I am limited on what I can do for exercise due to the need for knee replacement. DH had the surgery a year before I did because his doctor told him if he didn't lose the weight he wouldn't live to see 60, he will be 60 in August and weighs less now than he did in high school, he's also a lot healthier and does a lot more physical things than he ever did. You have to remember that this is a tool and if you aren't going to follow the guidelines that come with it you should forget about doing the surgery. The first few months you will seem to lose weight no matter what but that doesn't last. If you aren't ready to make the changed in eating and mental attitude then you aren't ready to do the surgery. Good luck with your decision.





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Registered: 03-06-2004
Mon, 02-04-2013 - 6:06pm

I had a friend who has been MO his entire life as well have surgery a year before me and he did quite well.  I was very tired of the ups and downs--I had dieted and lost as much as 75lbs on my own but put it all back on and could not get under 200lbs--so I felt I needed to do something drastic to get my weight down to a "normal" number so I could battle with the last 20lbs like all my friends my age (I'm 40)--my goal weight was 170 lbs which was not a normal BMI for me but I knew would be out of the plus size section.  I ended up down to 139 at a low and maintained 142-147 for a year before I got pregnant which was a normal BMI for me.  I knew the surgery would not be the solution to my lifelong battle with being MO but I knew that the intial dramatic weight loss in the first 6-12 months would give me a light at the end of the tunnel to make the changes to my diet and exercise to keep the weight off.

You are not bothering anyone with questions--please ask ANY you have!



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Registered: 09-30-2003
Tue, 02-05-2013 - 10:56pm

I was sad that I had no lap for my little one to sit on. I was also pre diabetic and it ran in my family.  I also was starting to have blood pressure problems.  I also was having marital problems and thought my weight may be the issue.  Found out after surgery that no it was not the issue and now am divorced.  I am glad I did the surgery as I feel good about myself and am having fun dating again. Although my daughter is too big to really sit on my lap anymore, I work at a daycare and I have a lap for the little ones to sit on.  Most times I have 2 or 3 little ones sitting on my lap at a time.  

Barbara - Mom to Veronica aka Roni- Large facial Hemangioma and PHACE

Just Remember that God does not give us more than we can handle,