Battling materialism (newbie here)
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|Thu, 08-31-2006 - 3:17pm|
I am new to this board. I feel like a bit of a fraud because we aren't "green" really although we do many things to minimize our consumption of natural resources and polluting of same. Jumping in with two feet with a question/concern that is really bugging me.
So, here it is ...
I was helping my older dd clean up her room--as I was putting *stuff* away I was appalled, once again, at how much junky stuff/toys/stuffed animals we collect and how quickly it becomes of no interest, when it was once of critical :-) interest, only weeks/days before.
How do you all handle this phenomenon?
How do you respond or cure the kids of "Janey has blah blah blah and Sally has blah blah blah" -- all said in a tone that implies *not* having these things makes your child deprived.
How do you whittle down the Christmas and birthday presents without feeling (or having them feel) like they are getting "less than" their friends (the first question is usually "What did *you* get for Christmas?")?
We just started my older dd (6 yo) on an allowance -- 1 dollar for college account; $1 for charitable giving; $1 for saving/spending (no impulse spending allowed; she must save, identify something she wants and only then pull money out to buy -- in theory). Oh, my gosh, she desperately wanted to get to Target to buy *something* (anything) ... I did let her finally select a "little pet shop" toy -- within her price range -- but, gosh, these things get lost, tossed aside in 24 hours; just the junk I don't like!
What are you all doing to promote simple living (yes, setting an example is part of it), dissuade your child from focusing on things and comparing their possessions to those of their friends; to teach them that their personal worth/value is not measured by their things?
I feel like I am my own personal landfill here -- we just keep dumping stuff in!!! I do weed out, but I would like to stop the dumping of trash in the first instance!
Would love to hear your ideas or recommendations of website/discussion groups that might be useful for support in this goal!
PS None of this comes from tv; we don't watch (just an occasional parent-selected video)