are you giving back this season?

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Registered: 01-20-2010
are you giving back this season?
Sat, 12-03-2011 - 2:35pm

i am housebound by a snow storm today,


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Registered: 05-08-2006
Sat, 12-03-2011 - 11:36pm
My mother died this year, and she was the main person I bought gifts for. I have other family but she was the center of the holiday for me. Where I work, we get names for children who live in a shelter with their gift requests - a toy and an item of clothing. Some requests are heartbreaking - they used to ask for just one thing and the year I saw that a request was for a snowsuit for a baby, I cried. I took that name, and bought a little toy too. We have very generous people in our office - some buy bikes and electronics. In other years, we have had to ask for additional names so everyone who wanted one could participate. But this year, there were children left as the deadline nears. I don't know if we started out with more names or if people are feeling the pinch more, but anyway, I decided to take the money I would have spent on my mother and do some additional children. I went to Old Navy today - I had a 30 % and a 10% coupon that I could combine. I was able to spend $86 and save - $156...I got hats for $2.70. We try to make sure that children get mittens and hats, and that the ones who need warm clothes get them. I also got some very good deals on toys. I feel really good about this. My mother loved kids - she worked in a school for years. She made sure we had great Christmas's with lots of presents - some were underwear and socks and other things we needed, but we got lots to open. She always enjoyed shopping with me for the toy drive so I know this was a good choice f,or her 'gift' I also have a tradition of sending money to the Salvation Army in memory of my favorite uncle. He never passed the bell ringer without reaching in his pocket. One year we had spent a lot of time together and I really wanted to get him the perfect present. But I looked and looked and I realized there was no way I could ever find something that would show him how much I loved him. I decided that i would make a donation and write him a note explaining why I made that choice. He was so thrilled that I did it for the next few years, and when he died, I kept it up. He made sure that we had what we needed growing up - not so much material things but lessons in manners and good times and an ability to laugh at ourselves. I know many people don't have someone like that in their lives and I feel so fortunate that I did. SJ
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Registered: 10-17-2010
Sun, 12-04-2011 - 8:03am

DD and I are going to pick a child of the Angel Tree this week.

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Registered: 08-24-2007
Sun, 12-04-2011 - 4:05pm
happysj56, I cried when I read your post. I'm so sorry that you lost your Mom and I think you're wonderful for honouring her by purchasing items for those in need. And your Uncle sounds like a wonderful man.

Andi, what a lovely idea! I purchased some items for the Food Bank this weekend and was thinking that I should do this more often. I think I will follow your lead and use 10% of my budget for the Food Bank as well. I'm sure they can use food all year round and not just at Thanksgiving and Christmas (the times I tend to donate food).

DD and I have both been "angels" for seniors who are shut-ins. There's a seniors tree at our local Mall with the wishes on seniors. We each took a name and purchased a gift and we had an incredibly wonderful time dong it. Some requests are heartbreaking (like food or items for their pets).

I also have regular donations taken from my paycheque for "Farley Foundation", a charity that financially assists low-income seniors and people with disabilities with vetrianary care for their pets - pets who are often their only companionship.

There is no worse feeling than feeling like the well is dry and there is nothing left to give others, be it financially or emotionally. It's good to remind ourselves that, no matter how bad things get, there is always some small thing we can give someone -- even if it is only a kind word.


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Registered: 11-14-2008
Mon, 12-05-2011 - 1:00pm
You just inspired me to put some items in the food bank area at the grocery store. It is important. I don't have a lot of spare time but this I can do. Merry Christmas! Andi what a wonderful idea to put in for the food bank!
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Registered: 12-31-2010
Mon, 12-05-2011 - 1:54pm
We have a box for our community at the store as well, and at church. I always buy for the box whenever I shop.
I also am wrapping our gifts for the Angel tree at the fitness center tonight, and we adopt a family and buy gifts as well as their entire holiday meal. DH also donates money and time to the local food pantry, and coordinates at work so his entire staff participates.
I guess I am also educating my children so they will become productive citizens who also give back. They both are engaging in charitable events this week at their universities, so I was proud to hear about that from them as well.
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Registered: 08-25-2006
Mon, 12-05-2011 - 5:09pm
Thanks so much for the topic, Andi.

I think there are so many signs and boxes around I have become indifferent to them. They start to become part of the background and you don't see them any more.

I truly believe in giving, regardless of income, and your post has inspired me to at least donate some canned or boxed food.

There is ALWAYS someone with less.
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Registered: 07-20-2001
Thu, 12-08-2011 - 2:07pm
Very sorry to hear that your Mom passed. Tough time of year for many people.
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Registered: 03-27-2005
Fri, 12-09-2011 - 9:07am

I do give back

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Registered: 10-01-2009
Fri, 12-09-2011 - 6:17pm
Hey Stacy ...As usual you are awesome...

I support a reputable Romanian orphanage all year round. At Christmas I drop off goodies to some old friends and their kids (anonymously) who have been having hard times for a number of years now

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Registered: 07-24-2001
Fri, 12-09-2011 - 6:53pm

My dd's best friend passed away in a home fire a week ago today.