Do you love your job?

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-24-2001
Do you love your job?
17
Sun, 03-04-2012 - 12:40pm

I've been thinking about this lately.

Pages

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-24-2007
Sun, 03-04-2012 - 2:32pm
Interesting question.

My job doesn't feel like my dream job, but if I honestly look at one part of the work I do (which involves organizing other people and creating file systems), it completely matches my personality and is fulfilling for me. However, more and more I am working behind the scenes (i.e. the migration of legacy systems and disposition authories) I find myself punching the clock each day and counting the years until retirement.

Bumblingalong, like you my identity doesn't orbit around my career. I think of myself as a mother and friend first. But, if I could have a dream job, it would either be writing (I might pick up that novel I started years ago when I retire) or working in a purse store. Neither really pays enough to support myself, so for now I have to deal with the reality of my situation.

I feel bad griping at all because I am so much better off than many of my classmates who took their library science skills and have worked all these decades in libraries at half my salary. And I have a couple of unemployed friends (including X-DH) who would kill for any job right now. I also have a pension, which so few people have. On bad days, I remind myself of these things. I value security, which again makes my job very desirable.

I'm 48 as well and I sometimes wonder if it's too late to pursue my dreams. I'd like to believe that it's never too late -- but the reality is that bills need to be paid and I don't have the energy I had in my 20's.

Kate


empty purse

Avatar for mahopac
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-24-1997
Sun, 03-04-2012 - 3:13pm
bumblingalong wrote:

I've been thinking about this lately.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-24-2001
Sun, 03-04-2012 - 4:29pm

Oh yeah, this "follow your bliss" has to be done with some discretion, obviously.

I suppose this is another discussion about "living your value system".

Avatar for poorboy2011
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-02-2011
Sun, 03-04-2012 - 6:46pm

No, I don't love my job. But this has to do more with my own personal changes than with the choice I made. In a way, when you decide to go into this or that field, whether following your passion or taking a safe bet with a lucrative line of work, you cannot anticipate the changes in your desire. This is really the biggest problem.

I chose a line of work that has a notoriously dysfunctional culture. When I was younger I could handle that. The pay is not poor, but far less than what one might expect for a decade of post-graduate training. If I get lucky maybe my salary will rise up to six figures by the time I retired, but a situation like that would be exceptional. However, I was willing to accept a bad work environment and a moderate salary because I could do what I wanted. At the time I made this decision, the calculation made sense, because I didn't care so much about people or about money.

Now, as I gradually approach 40, I suddenly discover that I've been missing out on a big part of life, and I want to live it. I want a family. I want to have kids. Now when I see a woman I'm attracted to, I always think she'd look so beautiful as the mother of my (our!) children. That means I need a lot more money than I'm making. I don't want to have to deal with childish tantrums from people whose exceptional intelligence prevented them from growing up. Moreover, suddenly I am realizing the emotional impact such people have on me. I want money, and I want a tolerable work environment. I want to be able to live where I want to, rather than getting sent all over like petty British colonial officers in the 19th century. These are new priorities, and I could not have seen them.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-28-2009
Sun, 03-04-2012 - 8:43pm

This is such a complicated subject matter for me, I will try to make my thoughts clear. I think about this all the time. and I mean pretty much everyday.haha!

What mahopac said about your bliss job turning into the same old drugery job - I have thought about that too - all the time! What I perceive to be a dream job, whatever that is, I am trying to figure that out still, I am afraid of trying it. What if I learn too much about the details? My fantasy will be ruined.

My current job is okay. Most days I love it, I like most of the people I work with. It's in a very difficult & negative industry as a rule, so we go out of our way to enjoy our time at work and laugh a lot. There is one person that has the ability to make life a living hell for everyone though. Having said all that, I am paid very well. The times that I have seriously considered leaving, I have been there for about 20 years, the money has been what talked me into to staying. I hate to say that, I am not a "moneyhungry" person, but it is helping me get to the point that I will be debt free within 7 years and be able to figure out what job I want to work at. Looking around me at some friends that are long term unemployed, deep down, I truly do feel grateful to have a job. I go back & forth everyday. I am grateful for this job, I want out now, I want to stay & pay off my house, what is my dream job? what do I want to do with my life? Mortgage paid off= freedom.

Avatar for poorboy2011
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-02-2011
Sun, 03-04-2012 - 11:39pm
bumblingalong wrote:

My sister is a zookeeper, and she loves it.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-24-2007
Mon, 03-05-2012 - 5:26am
I wish I could bring a penguin home. Or a baby polar bear. So far, all I've brought home is paperwork, which isn't very exciting but at least it doesn't pee on the floor.

It reminds me of a colleague of mine who felt miserable at work. She had studied Veterenary Technology at nights to get a diploma. When she finished, she decided to quit her job, move to Kenya and try to work with elephants, which was her passion. She was so excited when she left. Flash-forward two years later and she was unable to secure any kind of employment. Last I heard, she had moved to Trinidad and Tobago and was couch-surfind between friends homes.

The truth is, changing your life takes considerable effort, is always a risk and doesn't always work out for the better. But then again, staying stagnant in life means you never grow, never experience new things and may become obsolete.

I think a good compromise could be to follow your passion outside of work hours.

Kate


empty purse

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-27-2009
Mon, 03-05-2012 - 12:05pm

small_change wrote:

The truth is, changing your life takes considerable effort, is always a risk and doesn't always work out for the better. But then again, staying stagnant in life means you never grow, never experience new things and may become obsolete.

JenAaron.jpg picture by jen2075


iVillage Member
Registered: 07-27-2009
Mon, 03-05-2012 - 12:27pm

I actually think about this a lot as a PP said they did. I am a firm believer in "If you are not happy with something in your life, change it." Period. You only have one life and you should always pursue what makes you happy (This of course applies to normal, healthy minded people not ax murderers--I have had people throw that one at my happiness ideals, lol).

I LOVE my job and I admire others that do. I would have never guessed when I first stepped into my first college class that this is where I would be, so after much adaptation and soul searching

JenAaron.jpg picture by jen2075


Avatar for poorboy2011
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-02-2011
Mon, 03-05-2012 - 12:47pm

Yo, Kate! For

Pages