In five years...

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Registered: 11-15-2011
In five years...
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Wed, 01-16-2013 - 10:05pm

I will be out of grad school and working in a children's hospital as a social worker, most likely in palliative care.  In ten years, I will be out of debt (minus the mortgage) and will be living somewhere I truly want to live for myself, not just some place that we picked based on availability of good school programs  for autism.  My husband will work part time around MY schedule, so that none of our kids will ever be in daycare. 

That is as close to a long term plan as I have had at any time of my adult life.  Yes, it is simple, but at the same time, it is not, because I am aware of all of the steps I have to take to get to where I can reach these two broader goals. 

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Registered: 10-02-2011
Wed, 01-16-2013 - 11:41pm

How do you find the courage to work in palliative care? My heart would explore with pain.

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Thu, 01-17-2013 - 1:41pm

It takes a special sort of person to work in that position and our Heather is just what those people need! I like your plan. And it is realistic too. I don't know what that kind of salary entails but i hope it allows your and your husband to pay down debt and put money away for the future.

Five years, five years. I hope to have a full time job and have my family in a new house. We will see!

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Thu, 01-17-2013 - 8:07pm

PB, There is no pit lower than the one I found myself in a bit over seven months ago.  To be a social worker in palliative care is to have a real meaningful impact on others who also find themselves in the depths of despair, and of course, the flip side of that is also possible....miracles happen everyday.  It is about sharing the best of myself with the world.   I think that I can honestly make a difference, and that may just be Maya's gift to the world.  I am also contemplating writing a book, but not in the next decade.  This is something I will do when my life isn't so full of hustle and bustle.

Karen, I think if I stick with the plan, all of the financial goals are totally realistic.  I need to stay the course and not get discouraged.  I have to let my brain heal...I am not yet where I once was, but I know to be gentle with myself, which is why Fall 2014 is when I plan to start in grad school and not sooner.