Happiness vs Money???
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|Mon, 03-18-2013 - 8:53am|
Hi team DSG,
This may sound like I'm babbling, but here goes.
At what point does being happy trump a big income? As you may remember I was recently promoted and am the youngest director at my company. Even though I was kind of doing the job before, I'm not sure that I was fully prepared for the pressure. The job pays incredibly well (I am making 6 figures with a potential 20% bonus - not bad for 31) but its killing me.
Last night I was in tears thinking about coming into the office today. I love the job about 20% of the time, but the hours and travel I have to work to do it are taking a toll on my health and wellbeing. I had a knot in my stomach all weekend and today it almost killed me to get in here. Now I am 31 and the thought of doing this for 30 more years is overwhelming. I like interacting with and helping people and I don't get a lot of that now.
I know what I want to do. I've known for probably about 3 years now. I want to be a registered dietitian. I've never pursued it because 1) I am in a great job and am making well above the average (my father would lose his marbles if he thought that I was honestly considering this - this is the man that thinks money is the be all end all and when I told him I was appointed director, his comment was - "when are you going to be VP?") and 2) it would require going back to school.
Well last night after having my breakdown, BF challenged me. He knows I'm not happy. I helped my mom create her diet plan just through my own research and she has lost almost 100lbs and is off her diabetes medication. I helped my aunt and uncle and both of them were able to control their diabetes through diet. I love it. I'm just not sure what to do. I look back over the past 5 years at how I've been bouncing around trying this and trying that and never committing to anything (but work). Ultimately I think deep down I've known this isn't the right path but I am terrified of walking away from it.
I looked into it and I could take most of the courses through distance education. There are several that are also offered in-class at night. Ultimately I would be able to complete 12 of the 20 courses while working full time (assuming 2 per semester three semesters a year). It would take two years. I would then have to go back full time for a year and a half to complete the final courses and do the internship. This is where the idea scares the pants off me.
Part of me thinks its crazy ... investing time and money to come out with a degree that will have me earning $40K LESS than what I do now! But when I think about the benefits and how I could really help someone, I love the idea. When I think about the possibilities of creating a business and putting all my energies into something that is mine that I truly believe in, I love it.
IDK. I did the quick math on it, and it woudl cost me abotu $700 per course. If I did nothing else but stopped paying my cleaning lady, that would cover a good chunk of it. I'm going to call the college today to see if there is any downside to doing it part time, and then call the university to see what they think.
This one would require a lot of thought . . .