I feel like I've hit a roadblock (with my attitude)

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Registered: 07-24-2001
I feel like I've hit a roadblock (with my attitude)
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Wed, 02-29-2012 - 5:08pm

I've been at this for three months, and have had almost laserlike attention to the details of meeting my financial goals.

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Registered: 07-24-1997

What a great idea, separating expenses into categories, so you can be successful in some areas even if you aren't in others.

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Registered: 11-14-2008

You have not hit a road block, you have just hit a speed bump. By this I mean, you are starting to realize how long this will take and are impatient to pay things off and "get on with it already". That is very common. A road block is when something comes up in your life where you incur more debt when you were not expecting and you have a pity party for yourself and end up crying on the bathroom floor. I have found the people to be most diligent, obsessive, responsible and manic about this process grow and learn with the process and do better than people that are more lax about it. However, I find coming here everyday and helping other people with their questions helps me with my emotional turbulence as it often gets pretty bad some days.

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I like so much of what you've said here.

I do know people who equate "not having enough money" with "being virtuous."

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Registered: 08-25-2006
What you are describing is exactly why I hesitate to try a strict budget. If I dive into something 100%, I too can drive myself crazy.

I don't know if it was you or someone else, but they said they couldn't wait for a bill to come in the mail so they could make the payment. I am totally the same way, and I have to be very careful about obsessing.

I like what another poster said about one not canceling out the other. We have to learn how to relax a bit because if we don't, we will just totally fall of the wagon.

Hang in there!
Serenity
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So, um, I read the article and my first thought was, what a snob.

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I hope nobody on this board thinks I'm implying the article applies directly to them. The mere fact that we're on these boards, facing our debts, being "real" and exploring our financial options pretty much takes us out of that category and probably a lot of other categories as well. It was only an example of some of the things our group is reading and debating.

I've heard of the small-house movement, but are the Buddhists saying anything new about money (besides their ideal of living without money)?

Hmmm maybe I'll google....

Oh my goodness, there's tons about being mindful about money! Who knew? I guess I have some more reading to do.

I struggle with all of this because I'm not only tired of always feeling like my budget is tight and I'm making sacrifices but I've read a number of books about money and happines and they just didn't resonate with me. I'm trying to explore a way to live this way and feel... fulfilled? I don't know if I'm explaining this very well.

Kate


empty purse

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I struggle with all of this because I'm not only tired of always feeling like my budget is tight and I'm making sacrifices but I've read a number of books about money and happines and they just didn't resonate with me. I'm trying to explore a way to live this way and feel... fulfilled? I don't know if I'm explaining this very well.

I hear you, Kate.

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Registered: 10-01-2008

I think this WAS the perfect place to vent.

Norma


"Patience is the best remedy for every trouble"- Plautus


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Registered: 05-14-2003

So interesting to hear about your retreat. The monks don't have families to support though, or to be a burden to in their old age. I think there is also a question of socialization and lifestyle. The monks are conforming to group of their peers who have made that choice. That is a sanctioned and acceptable choice in their social group.

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Registered: 07-24-2001

Wow!

I feel so much better after reading this thread.

I really appreciate the help and encouragement.