I feel like I've hit a roadblock (with my attitude)

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I feel like I've hit a roadblock (with my attitude)
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Wed, 02-29-2012 - 5:08pm

I've been at this for three months, and have had almost laserlike attention to the details of meeting my financial goals.

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Where's the "LIKE" button?

Norma


"Patience is the best remedy for every trouble"- Plautus


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Thank you for elaborating on your retreat experience. I have never been on one as an adult. So, as I said, I had no idea what I was talking about. I did go on a retreat as a catholic student when I was much younger, I'm sure I didn't appreciate, nor really understand, the experience to the fullest.



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dollarsandscents wrote:

I am going to ask, just out of curiousity - the retreats and seminars and classes and books about living more simply - I am sure they all carry a price tag, no? if I had to guess the retreat was costly? Maybe I have no idea what I am talking about. It's just funny to me that people teaching one thing, but collecting hefty funds to tell you how to live simply and consume(spend) less.

Everything has a price.

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I love that sinking funds can now be about not only what is inevitably going to happen (car repairs, laundry, insurance payments) and also about what is important to you as an individual (vacations, extra emergency fund for security)

Regarding the blog post: I get and understand the basic idea. Live more simply and with more meaning. But it's not black & white, it's not that simple. and maybe, like dd said, some people are okay with living large. They shouldn't be judged for it. As long as someone can afford whatever life they choose to live, amen.

I am going to ask, just out of curiousity - the retreats and seminars and classes and books about living more simply - I am sure they all carry a price tag, no? if I had to guess the retreat was costly? Maybe I have no idea what I am talking about. It's just funny to me that people teaching one thing, but collecting hefty funds to tell you how to live simply and consume(spend) less.

On a personal level, I had set a goal for myself a while back. At the time, I was flaking like a crazy person to my car loan. I paid it off 3 years early. Then I saved up cash for a handbag I had been wanting for years. When I see that bag now, which I love, I see a goal accomplished, one I worked really hard for. Someone like the blogger might see an overindulgence. excessive spending. Like you all said, we have no idea what someone else's situation is. everyone has a unique story in their own way.

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And I really find this thread about attitudes/values/beliefs very, very interesting too.

I haven't read the article Kate posted yet (I will soon), but I love the discussion it sparked.

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Wow!

I feel so much better after reading this thread.

I really appreciate the help and encouragement.

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So interesting to hear about your retreat. The monks don't have families to support though, or to be a burden to in their old age. I think there is also a question of socialization and lifestyle. The monks are conforming to group of their peers who have made that choice. That is a sanctioned and acceptable choice in their social group.

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I think this WAS the perfect place to vent.

Norma


"Patience is the best remedy for every trouble"- Plautus


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I struggle with all of this because I'm not only tired of always feeling like my budget is tight and I'm making sacrifices but I've read a number of books about money and happines and they just didn't resonate with me. I'm trying to explore a way to live this way and feel... fulfilled? I don't know if I'm explaining this very well.

I hear you, Kate.

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I hope nobody on this board thinks I'm implying the article applies directly to them. The mere fact that we're on these boards, facing our debts, being "real" and exploring our financial options pretty much takes us out of that category and probably a lot of other categories as well. It was only an example of some of the things our group is reading and debating.

I've heard of the small-house movement, but are the Buddhists saying anything new about money (besides their ideal of living without money)?

Hmmm maybe I'll google....

Oh my goodness, there's tons about being mindful about money! Who knew? I guess I have some more reading to do.

I struggle with all of this because I'm not only tired of always feeling like my budget is tight and I'm making sacrifices but I've read a number of books about money and happines and they just didn't resonate with me. I'm trying to explore a way to live this way and feel... fulfilled? I don't know if I'm explaining this very well.

Kate


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