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Registered: 12-31-2010
Thu, 02-21-2013 - 4:24pm

Jen started it, but I have been thinking it.  I have such a list in my head of "I wants" it is keeping me up at night.  These are not things "I need" in order to live, but things I would like that if I had more money right now, I would try to get.  I figured if I get it out of me, I will be able to sleep a bit better.  Some are things I want for my business, kind of investments in my business to make it easier, but it takes money.  Then I have a list of things I personally want.

SO what are YOUR WANTS???


Business wants:

  •  - 2 new (or new/used) chairs for the conference table in my office ($200)
  •  - A new ultrabook with touch screen that flips so I can to client proposals outside my office ($1200 with warantee)
  • - 3 Marketing initiatives, one for each upcoming quarter ($2500 each)
  • - Training classes to further specialize my practice: B, C and D (I bought A already) which are $450 each and include certification testing

Personal Wants:

  • -Blinds in kitchen and sunroom
  • -Bathroom Makeover (new tile shower, new medicine cabinets, sink, counter and top, all tile, paint, etc.
  • -Kitchen makeover
  • -Basement finished
  • -New Landscaping
  • - Wardrobe makeover (some new power suits)
  • - Gym membership back


Ahh if I only had the funds!!



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Registered: 07-26-1999
Thu, 02-21-2013 - 7:04pm

I spent ages typing a reply, pressed "post" twice and my reply is just gone :(

I started out by saying that I live in a beautiful, peaceful place, I'm warm enough and not going hungry, and amazingly I sleep well most nights. I know this is all a blessing. 

Anyway, my needs are to get our new business up and running asap. We are almost there; it has been a long haul.

I need to be able to pay the bills on time in full every month. I'm sick of juggling and the mental exercises of figuring out how to pay everything.

I need to pay off the debt (the legitimate debt that we know we incurred, have paperwork for etc) asap. I need to get out of the hole we are in. My self esteem is based on paying on time, being able to afford the basics of life and being debt free. The past few months have been a terrible blow, but a huge learning experience as a result.

I will need a new computer in the next few months.

I need and want to start saving aggressively for our own property. I want our own home, where I can paint the walls whatever colour I please, and where I can have a garden and chickens. My present house is amazing, but there is no garden and I would never be permitted chickens.

I "want" time to read a book, for hours on end and think of nothing else. No time for that right now. I "want" brand name skin cream and a new mascara. I can't afford those things and I won't charge them on a credit card. I want my own home where I don't feel like a tenant, where I can create a garden that is mine as the years pass, and where I can have chickens. I want to be able to have a bird (a parrot of some sort) and know that I can pay a vet bill without blinking.

Thanks Marie, this was a great exercise to show me that my "wants" are few, and that really I have a lot and know what I need to work on.

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Registered: 10-02-2011
Thu, 02-21-2013 - 7:52pm

I want health. I want good medical care.

I want a partner.

I want children. That's going to be hard -- most women I come across either have enough children already, or they've decided not to have children. 

I want to be out of debt.

I want world peace.

If we're talking about material things, guys like me have a long list of toys they want:

-- Contax G2 rangefinder with Zeiss lenses ($1,500-$2,000) (I thought I wanted a Leica, but I decided I like Contax better)

-- Nikon D700 SLR, with a bunch of really fancy lenses ($10,000)

-- PSE Tac Elite Crossbow, plus an assortment of recurve bows ($3,000)

-- Calphalon cookware

-- Shun kitchen knives

-- A really good oven

-- A gas range (I like to cook)

-- Antique Japanese swords (koto) (5 digit range each)

-- Conrad-Johnson valve pre & power amps, Martin Logan electrostatic speakers

-- Mazdaspeed 3 (a modest sports car)

-- Jaguar (I've always wanted a Jag -- reliving childhood)

-- Tag Heur watch (again, reliving childhood)

-- A collection of antique typewriters, calculators, cameras

-- A collection of bespoke suits, shirts, etc.

-- Shoes. I like shoes.

-- A sail boat

-- An airplane

-- Scuba gear and lots of trips to great diving locales

and more...

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Registered: 04-10-2003
Thu, 02-21-2013 - 9:38pm
Interesting post Marie! - I want to redo my bathroom. I can't be sure but I partially suspect that the mold in my shower may be impacting my health (I am currently trying to bulk up my home sinking fund - I think this will be a $2k rennovation and I currently have $500 saved) - I want to finish my home reno I still need closet doors, baseboards, backsplash (etc) - Okay how about I just say I want to fix up the house in general :) - I want to vacation to Africa and Asia - I want to update my wardrobe - I want to buy rental property Sigh. All in good time I guess

Bex -

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Registered: 04-08-2008
Fri, 02-22-2013 - 1:29am

You want to know something absolutely crazy? I did a huge "want" list when we moved in here 4 yrs ago and DH thought I was nuts bc it was just a time waster. By year 2, I had crossed everything off the list including take violin lessons, lol.


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Registered: 07-26-1999
Fri, 02-22-2013 - 11:43am

Dee that is quite inspiring. I was thinking this morning that the "want game" was getting the better of me and that I am going to be strong and totally supress all the "wants" until the debt is all paid and I can pay cash for things.  Your post made me realize that making the "want list" could actually be a great growth exercise for self awareness, what's important to me, and help shape my decisions, etc. I will really consider making a huge list so that I can form my decisions with real knowledge of what I want from life instead of blindly trudging on "until everything is paid" and then not knowing clearly what I want when I get there....I'm still not going to charge things so that I can have them before I can truly afford them, but perhaps I can create a clear vision for what I want.

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Registered: 12-31-2010
Fri, 02-22-2013 - 11:54am

This has been kind of fun.

Like most of you, I am pretty happy where I am and paying debt down, getting my kids educated (5 more years), loving my DH and growing my business are my priorities. 

PB's list was really wonderful!!  Remember when we all had dreams like that we thought were totally within reach??  Gotta love optimism and we need more of it.

Dee's point was really good and a study was done of Harvard grads, showing the one's who wrote down their goals achieved them - even moreso than students with higher GPAs or more net worth!  So writing down goals is important.

Bex - my shower stall has mold in the top as well, and DH has caulked a leak at least 5 times.  That bathroom is moving from the want to the need list by next year!

Have a great weekend all! 



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Registered: 10-02-2011
In reply to: poorboy2011
Fri, 02-22-2013 - 1:02pm

marketingvirgo wrote:
<p>PB's list was really wonderful!!  Remember when we all had dreams like that we thought were totally within reach??  Gotta love optimism and we need more of it.</p>

Having good health is not within reach for me? I'm being optimistic wantng a partner and kids? What are you, a clairvoyant, God or the devil? Guys & girls, I think we'd better start bringing brownie to Marie. You know, just in case. :)

marketingvirgo wrote:
<p>Dee's point was really good and a study was done of Harvard grads, showing the one's who wrote down their goals achieved them - even moreso than students with higher GPAs or more net worth!</p>

I'm a Harvard grad. My writing down of goals hasn't been as magical as the study makes it out to be.

If you can get in to a school like that, GPA usually doesn't say very much about your potential for success. Most people are smart enough and driven enough to get what they want within reason. Whether they can do so, accomplishing their goals, depends on factors that have little to do with the GPA. For us, luck matters more than anything else. Also, in my limited encounters with classmates of known high net worth (people don't exactly walk around declaring themselves to be the heir to this or that fortune, so maybe I've met more than I am aware), GPA doesn't seem to be a big concern for most of them. Guess that's no surprise, hunh?

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Registered: 10-01-2008
Fri, 02-22-2013 - 2:58pm

We need:  

A new deck, ours is 31 yrs. old.  But it will have to do a little longer.  i don't think it's dangerous.  It looks a little shabby but I don't think I'm going to waste time & energy painting it again.  Maybe another pressure washing, LOL, if that won't make it collaspe.

We need insulation in the attic. Electric bills have been terrible this winter.

I need the leak fixed in my shower/bathtub.  Been meaning to have this done, just never seem to have the extra money for the plumber.  

The cedar siding needs the woodpecker holes repaired more professionally. We've patched but it doesn't look the best.  


DH & I are both loosing weight.  He's lost 35 lbs. and I've lost 10 lbs.  We'll soon be wanting new pants.  LOL, DH only has one hole left is his belt!!!

I want this next year over with!!!   PERIOD!

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Registered: 07-26-1999
Fri, 02-22-2013 - 4:03pm

used to post most often, but mostly lurk now, but had to bite at this post as we are in a major upheavel at our house right now.  So:

My needs:  Nothing major actually other than the mental health of my husband who has been struggling lately with his PTSD

My wants:

To not have the insurance company total my teenager's car out after her accident yestserday, i do NOT want to go car shopping again!

I want to move back closer to my parents and in-laws in Michigan and have my kids be around them much more often

I want to buy a house there with a bigger down payment and less of a mortgage payment than I have now and even if its a fixer upper, have the time and energy to be able to enjoy renovating it.

I want to start working part time from home for my old boss and also concentrate my efforts on DH's business

I want my daughter going off to college next year to have a wonderful experience and not go too deeply into debt doing it.

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Registered: 07-27-2009
Fri, 02-22-2013 - 5:32pm

Oooh, I like this idea. Even though they are just wants, it will give us all a little push to strive for the things we all would like. I have so many!


Personal Wants:

A new position that truly takes into account my experience and qualifications.

Finish my MBA by December 2013


House Repair Want List:

Paint the exterior of house (on the list for this spring/summer)

New outside light fixtures

Fans in all of the bedrooms

Tuck point foundation blocks

Insulate the crawl space

New trim throughout the entire house

Renovate BOTH bathrooms

Add a true laundry room where the back porch is currently

Add on a new kitchen. Our current kitchen is 6 x 10 and is a one butt kitchen

French doors to the back yard

Fence in the back yard

Add a nice large deck

New siding

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