Life is a SLOG right now :(

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Life is a SLOG right now :(
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Sun, 11-10-2013 - 1:12pm

I am SO sick of school I cannot possibly express it right now. I did very poorly on my last accounting midterm bc I used "real life" account names and the book has some I have never heard. Talking to another older student and he told me you don't learn that until the next class! The teacher tells me that he marks from the book so it doesn't matter that it is correct (or that the online homework ues those terms)?? He said he is trying to discourage marginal students.

I am not signing up next semester because I am not sure I want to do this anymore. Every group project becomes a "you are older and know what you are doing, so you can do all the work." I am the one with the least time on my hands! Teachers tell me, this is my chance to practise my leadership skills - REALLY? Why? Am I getting better marks or a reference for this? NO...

DS1 is just struggling in kindergarten. We are constantly being asked to pick him up and getting mixed signals. He thinks when he is bored, he can just act up and go home. It is incredibly stressful.

Budget is stretched but we are doing so much better. We haven't been out to eat in 3 weeks. I did get popcorn at the hockey game last night but I feed everyone dinner before we left :) The tickets were $80 but we got them free! 

Work is a very strange place. Nasty stuff happening. My commute is getting worse...1hr 10 mins of standing on your feet before your day begins. And all this putting in applications, doing tests and preparing for interviews is eating up way too much time.

So much to have going on all at once...

Dee

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Sun, 11-10-2013 - 11:46pm

I am a professor at a research university. Whenever I assign group projects, I always make it clear that everybody has to do a fair share of the work. If a student is better prepared for the course, that doesn't mean she gets to do it all for the rest of the group. I fail those who do not shoulder their share. It sounds like fairness is a problem in group projects. If it's so bad that you're dropping out of school or leaving your course of study, I suggest you bring this up with higher ups -- the departmental chair, for example. If group projects comprise of only a small percentage of your grade/overall learning experience, and there are many other things that bother you, then I'd be measured in how much of a stink you raise. 

As for the exam, usually instructors are given leeway in determining what "acceptable answers" are to exam questions. They design the course with certain learning goals, and they also design the tests for evaluating how well those goals have been attained. From the little you've said, it sounds like your instructor wants to remain consistent in how he grades, even if it's inflexible. Usually there isn't much people can do about that. I hope you didn't lose a lot of points. It worries me that you feel he described you as "marginal." Was he trying to say you were not doing well in the course, or was he trying to say you were a "non-traditional" student?

Don't let one bad course or our bad experience change your plans. Education is a marathon. What's more important is your fit for the course of study and your endurance in the long term. Good luck.

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Mon, 11-11-2013 - 12:53pm

Thank you for your comments, I appreciate it.

I think he marks just to follow his exact directions. This is confusing as the homework assignments use the REAL term and my other accounting class does as well. Apparently, he teaches his first year students this and in his words exactly "if you had taken me in the first year, you would know this." (I took that 16 years ago so I missed the memo). Yes, I lost 15% of my grade because of this! I went from a 75 to a 60.

I was a straight A student in advanced placement classes in high school and graduated a semester early. I have self taught myself quantum physics...so I KNOW I am not a marginal student. And that means if I am struggling then something isn't right. My heart isn't in it...the program isn't a right or something. And with so much on my plate, I don't have the energy to fight. :(

Dee

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Mon, 11-11-2013 - 2:40pm

Hi Stormy, boy do I feel  your pain!   It is funny, because I have recently found myself a little discouraged this term, also.  I didn't realize going in that half-time doesn't equal twice as long.  Lower math didn't count for anything, and half-time is really 8 credits, not 6. (I am just at community college with semesters)  I still have this entire school year, and another entire school year, at 8 credits a term. 

I have also been marked down in the past due to my real life answers.  I had a (presumably) younger instructor correct me on a paper saying a word I used didn't exist.  I finally had to ask her "what in the heck to you want" because she was really p*ssing me off.  Writing is a strength of mine, so when someone continues to question it, something is up.  I had a similar issue in the lower algebra classes.  I had the answer correct, but when the question is "how much money did Elmer lose selling his hotdogs, the answer is $5.00, right?  Nope, the answer is -$5.00.  He didn't lose negative five dollars.  Geesh!

Luckily, I have somehow been able to pull strait A's (with one B in PE, a stupid error on my part).  I am taking Accounting II right now along with Statistics and Probablity.  I actually like Statistics, but I am slow at it and so the timed test bit me last week. 

Stormy, I am also seriously reconsidering.  I have $14,000 in credit card debt that is all mine, not my DH.  I have resparked my home business and feeling torn between work, school, home business, my DD and my DH.  And lets not forget the rest of my family.  There are only so many hours in a day, so I am feeling pulled between making more money and school. 

p.s. sorry for the hijack!Embarassed

Serenity

 

 

 

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Mon, 11-11-2013 - 4:09pm

stormydancer wrote:

DS1 is just struggling in kindergarten. We are constantly being asked to pick him up and getting mixed signals. He thinks when he is bored, he can just act up and go home. It is incredibly stressful.

Hi Dee — 

I can't help with your school stuff (but you've gotten a ton of good adivce/support it seems!) but wanted to comment on the above. You need to get with the school and tell them to knock it off. You need to stop being asked to pick him up — they need to come up with another way of "punishing" him as sending him home is not going to work. Believe me, I went through this with my son. He was a bit older, but it was the same thing — he acted out, they called and told me to come get him. It became a habit. 

Some suggestions: have him sit in the principals office for some quiet time (though in kindy, may be too much for him to grasp), have him sit away from the other kids, have him lose something — a snack, a star (if they use a reward system), and so on. But they need to stop sending him home! It's really going to make things worse in the long run. :( 

Wishing you all the best!! 

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Mon, 11-11-2013 - 7:24pm

Thanks for the support. Yes, the school agrees with me but they are afraid when he gets frustrated he may be a danger to other students. They have had complaints from other parents about his meltdowns.

The principal would like to call us and have us come to the school, calm him down, and reset things ourselves. But I work downtown (20 miles away) and my husband is in law enforcement - they don't let you walk off the job whenever you want.

School was suppose to help me find another job so I could be closer to home or more available :)

DS1 is gifted. Unfortunately that just means his problem isn't a priority when they have lots of special needs children (8 in kindergarten alone!) . In Grade 2, they will have a program he can join but until then...grrrr...

DH is going to try to schedule himself to be there for reading time in the mornings. And I will continue with all my might to find another job closer to home! :)

Dee

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Mon, 11-11-2013 - 7:27pm
Feel free to join in on the vent! Yes, I could totally see the $5 example :) At work, they are asking for a different degree that I have found is offered online. It is 5 less classes but more specific to my current job. At this point, I am thinking a degree is a degree! I have none now. But without this experience, I would be hesitant to do an "all online" thing. Now that I have been doing this for a year, I have good habits that I can use. Do what is right for you! Dee