Luxuries that are actually necessities :)

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Registered: 04-08-2008
Luxuries that are actually necessities :)
Wed, 03-06-2013 - 9:19pm

I have been working full time & going to school full time since Jan. I've been able to maintain "family fun day" and the kids haven't really been impacted. I've also managed to continue to get exercise 3hrs/week (I'd like more, but you gotta draw the somewhere!). My Dh tells me that he can't believe how well I am juggling everything...he has barely noticed much difference.

What I've LEARNED through the process is that there are some things I do that helps me and that you may think are luxuries. But for me, in my situation right now, they have become necessities. Here is my list - share yours if you'd like!

- Starbucks. I know it is expensive. But when I spend that much on a coffee, I sip it and enjoy it. Call it Dee's form of meditation. I sit, breathe and sip. I stay in the moment and remind myself that this will ALL be worth it in 2 years. Plus, I have this moment and hey! It's a pretty good moment.

- PRV/TIVO. When I do have some time, I enjoy doing my exercises to television. I know most ppl would prefer music but I get that on the bus & at work. When Biggest Loser is taped (its on when I'm at school), I watch with w/the kids and we time how many situps we can do it in a minute. DS2 is only 2 but he can do ove 40! He hasn't figured out how to do a proper pushup yet tho...looks like the arched cat yoga pose, lol.

- Tablet. I haven't purchased one yet but I am fast realizing it is essential. I use my transit time as study time and I am breaking my back lugging all these books around. You can access all the texts online if you have a mobile device. Sometimes my bag is so full, I don't have room for the all the food I have to bring so I just don't eat. I leave the house at 6:30am and return at I have a whole day of eating to do.



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Registered: 10-02-2011
Sat, 03-09-2013 - 1:29pm

Whoah, you net $83/month? That's after childcare or debt repayment, right? Now I see why that's a luxury. I'm sorry the financial situation is so tough for you.

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Registered: 10-17-2010
Sun, 03-10-2013 - 8:35pm

I made a mistake with that one.  I actually net that in about a week, assuming I don't take on any extra hours.  My husband is the big money maker in the family.  I took on this job when we were in over our heads supporting his family (too much house, and too much utilities) but I went ahead and kept it after we got our situation straightened out to help pay off the credit cards that were run up.  If I take on extra projects and clients, my weekly net goes up to about $110.  Living the high life here.

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Registered: 08-25-2006
Thu, 03-14-2013 - 2:07pm
Dee, totally use Timmy's if you can. I like Starbucks because I know what I am getting, where ever I am. But there are definately places I go first, largely because of price or value. Does Timmy's have a punch card or coupons? Another drawback to Starbucks. But why would they? People pay, regardles.