Made some decisions.....

Community Leader
Registered: 08-25-2006
Made some decisions.....
Thu, 08-09-2012 - 12:52pm

I am finally in a place of surrender, and decided that I am going to ask my boss to work more hours.   I am finally broker than broke, and after talking to my SO last night, it finally became clear. 

SO was kind, but firm with me that it was time to do this.  He understands it is not where I want to stay for much longer, but while I am still undecided about what to do next, and while going to school, I really needed to do something. 

I am going to look at my expenses and take a realistic look at what I want to propose to my boss.  His DD works here on my two days off, so not sure how this will pan out.  She doesn't really do anything, and isn't here half of the time anyways, so I don't think asking for more hours will be an issue.  I may even be willing to go back to full-time.

Oh, and on a side note, I am not going to take any student loans.  It is just a band-aid and will probably come back to bite me in butt later.  I won't take a student loan unles it is absolutely necessary. 

I am also going to review the household expenses with SO, and make sure we are on the same page with what his contribution is. 

I also had sort of an awakening that I think I want to make a two year financial goal.  I will feel better about working more hours, especially if I go back to full-time, if I can see some light at the end of the tunnel. 

One thing at a time.  So, watch this thread and I will update after I talk to my boss.  Wish me luck!




Community Leader
Registered: 08-25-2006
Thu, 08-09-2012 - 1:22pm
After I posted this I just popped into my bosses office and simply said I wanted to put a bug in his ear about the possiblity of working more hours.

Of course, he asked if I had anything in mind, and I told him (I got this idea from my SO) so simply ask what the firm was willing to offer me. I told boss that I am open to a very wide range of just a few more hours a month all the way to the possiblity of full-time. As obviously his DD would be affected.

He said he will ponder it and let me know what would work for the firm. I said that would be great, as nothing needed to be decided today.

I feel so much better already!

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iVillage Member
Registered: 10-02-2011
Thu, 08-09-2012 - 1:43pm

I'm sorry, serenity, that you're facing such a situation. But doing something about it now is much better than waiting until later.

Will it affect your school work to work more hours? Maybe you should determine the number of hours based on how much you can reasonably sacrifice without hurting your school work. Or will you have to take a leave for a semester?

Community Leader
Registered: 08-25-2006
Thu, 08-09-2012 - 2:01pm
All of my classes are either on-line, indepenent study or a hybrid. My hours don't allow for standard classroom schedule.

It shouldn't effect my school work too much. I have an office job which in all honesty, with the exception of our two short busy seasons, is very boring with little to nothing to do. I already do a lot of my homework at the office.

Unfortunately, Fall and Winter finals fall during our busy time at the office. But I survived so far, don't expect working more hours to be much of a hinderance.

I am more concerned with my independent PE at the gym. Have to go 3 times a week to get an A.

Anywho, will keep you all posted!
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-10-2003
Thu, 08-09-2012 - 2:18pm
It sounds like you have a plan. I'm sorry that things are not going that great in the finance department but just think of this as temporary pain for long term gain.

Bex -

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-14-2008
Thu, 08-09-2012 - 3:37pm

I think this is great. I hope you get more hours. It really is the best solution. And look at you..... a two year plan. You have come so far. It will be nice to see the debt go down or at least breaking even and holding your own. I am so proud of you. This is the best option!

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-31-2010
Thu, 08-09-2012 - 3:40pm

Working full time sounds like a really viable option for you, especially if you can do some homework at the office.

I worked full time for my masters and went to school on a full time night schedule to get my MBA in 14 months.  It was the house cleaning and motherhood that were the stressful parts of that scenerio - but I am glad I have the degree and took the challenge.

Remember, what doesn't kill you makes you stronger!

(Also good to hear you are going over household expenses with you SO!)


iVillage Member
Registered: 10-01-2008
Thu, 08-09-2012 - 3:54pm

I think you have a good chance of getting more hours.  I also think since money is short, it's the right thing to do.  And making a two year plan is just plan old smart.  We all needs goals.

Good luck!  Paws crossed!



"Patience is the best remedy for every trouble"- Plautus

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-08-2008
Fri, 08-10-2012 - 12:30am

Right now I'm very short staffed at work (doing 3 jobs some days) and everyone keeps asking me how I am doing...and I just say "you do what you can"...and I think that you just have to find a motto to get you through these next 2 years. There IS a light at the end of the tunnel!!

Yes, definitely keep us posted though. We want to know how you are doing. That was smart to just pop your head into boss's office and get it over with right away. I tend to delay things like that and it builds up.



Community Leader
Registered: 08-25-2006
Mon, 08-13-2012 - 5:34pm
It is Monday afternoon and nothing so far. Ugh!

We are the only two here today, and I know he saw his DD on Friday, so I thought for sure he would say something this morning.

I think if it gets close to five and he hasn't said anything, I will ask if he has had time to consider it. Or maybe at least ask if I can work an extra day or two in August while he considers something more permanent.

I just want to know so I can plan accordingly. My relief is now turning into a bit of anxiousness.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-01-2009
Mon, 08-13-2012 - 6:46pm
Deep breaths
and keep asking