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Wed, 02-20-2013 - 2:39pm

Sometimes after a job interview you know you have the job. Sometimes it's gone so well that you have no doubt. Because you have done this before, and everytime you got that feeling, you got the job. And this time your whole life would change if you get the job. 

But it's taken too long. I'm in a line of work where employers never bother telling you you didn't get the job. I'm losing hope. At the same time I'm very confident about my worth, and it makes no sense at all. I've started medicating myself to get through this.

Wish me luck, in the remaining hours of the day.

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Sun, 02-24-2013 - 9:03pm

Thanks for the encouragement. LIfe has a way of kicking you when you're down. You get hit with something, then another, then another, and then another. At the end of last week I knew I probably wouldn't get a job offer this year. Then some personal stuff happened this weekend. For the first time in a while I just wanted to sit down and cry. Because I can't get out of this town, if I cried I would have to cry alone.

If God has a plan for me, it probably involves growing a beard. I stopped shaving after returning from the interviews. I had always been clean shaven. Now I have a bit of a moustache and a beard. Now some women are telling me I look like a movie star. At least He has good fashion sense.

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Sun, 02-24-2013 - 11:50pm

I am glad you still have your sense of humor!  Smile

Very sorry about the personal stuff.  As to the job offer, sometimes we are lucky because we don't get what we want.  Right now this thought probably does noting to take away your disappointment and pain, but when I look back, there was one job I wanted so badly, and was so close to getting it (had a second interview that lasted three days when they actually put me to work), and indeed I cried for hours and thought my world fell apart when I received the rejection.  That was about one year before 9/11.  Had I gotten that job, I would have a slight possibility of getting killed and a very strong possibility of getting laid-off.

Sending you some cyber-shoulders ...

P. S.  I am sure you know this already that sometimes you don't get a job not because you are not good enough, but because you are too good.  I found out later that my prospective boss was somewhat threatened by my experience.  Please don't let this setback eat into your self-confidence.

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Mon, 02-25-2013 - 2:01am

I have no doubt that I'm one of the smartest people in the field. But hiring decisions often have more to do with how you affect the existing departmental politics, which is just a more sophisticated way of saying how much they like you. So in a way a rejection is even more direct as a judgment -- it is a judgment on you rather than on your work. Luck has a lot to do with life, and I seem to be rather short on it.

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