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Wed, 02-20-2013 - 2:39pm

Sometimes after a job interview you know you have the job. Sometimes it's gone so well that you have no doubt. Because you have done this before, and everytime you got that feeling, you got the job. And this time your whole life would change if you get the job. 

But it's taken too long. I'm in a line of work where employers never bother telling you you didn't get the job. I'm losing hope. At the same time I'm very confident about my worth, and it makes no sense at all. I've started medicating myself to get through this.

Wish me luck, in the remaining hours of the day.

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Registered: 10-01-2008
In reply to: poorboy2011
Wed, 02-20-2013 - 2:56pm

I hope your gut feeling is wrong.  I think companies think about things a lot longer than they use to.  Paws crossed it comes through.

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Registered: 04-08-2008
In reply to: poorboy2011
Wed, 02-20-2013 - 9:31pm

Aw, I was hoping that you would get one of those jobs - didn't you interview for more than one?

I was watching bc I applied for a truly exciting position with lots of potential at the same time. Interview was Jan30th. Everyone at work keeps asking me if I've heard...I told 2 ppl and it went around the entire office. That kind of adds to the misery, LOL. They keep thinking I have a chance but it is standard protocol to ask for references right away if someone is in the running for the position (top 1-3 interviewed) but it is also standard protocol to advise in writing the successful candidate as soon as the position is filled. So hmmm. It is a higher level security position so I hold a glimmer of hope that maybe they don't need to ask for references bc they'll have to do a full background.

Or maybe I am just deluding myself. I walked out of there with that "feeling" you speak of. I had that same feeling after the interview for my present position...but that was in Aug/11 and I just got the call Sept/12! I'm kid you NOT!

So you just never know. Funny things happen with numbers on a budget screen...oh maybe we should wait until next quarter just to make things look better...with the job market the way it is our preferred candidate will probably still be available!

Ugh :(

Hugs,

Dee

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Thu, 02-21-2013 - 12:44am

Thanks for the encouragement. I'm a professor. Typically the hiring process has a time table like this: it takes three weeks to interview the three finalists, and in the fourth week the job offer goes out to the top finalist. The top person has two weeks to accept or reject the offer. Then it goes to the runner-up. The people who don't get an offer don't get a rejection letter. They just get silence. I've been getting silence from a position for two weeks. The other position ought to be making an offer this week, and it's getting late in the week.

So things aren't looking good.

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Registered: 10-17-2010
In reply to: poorboy2011
Thu, 02-21-2013 - 1:16pm

I'll keep my fingers crossed that it works out!!

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Registered: 06-20-2008
Thu, 02-21-2013 - 2:40pm

I'll be hoping and praying for you  Good Luck

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Thu, 02-21-2013 - 3:56pm

Oh PB, this in between time has got to be the worst, but hang in there.  There might be more options out there, so keep your head held high.

I still believe good things come to good people!

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In reply to: poorboy2011
Thu, 02-21-2013 - 9:41pm
I hope things turn out in your favour so you can move on with life!! Crossables crossed!

Bex -

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Registered: 04-08-2008
Fri, 02-22-2013 - 1:17am

I can't cross my fingers for you - I need them to type!

2 weeks to DECIDE? Holy moly! We are usually lucky if we get one day. I usually ask if I can call them back the next day just so I can sleep on it...but most of the time the offer is accepted right then and there...anything more than a day and they are on to the next candidate.

But I do hope that you get that call! And soon.


Dee

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Fri, 02-22-2013 - 2:40am

@Dee -- Academics may need longer to negotiate, and universities need longer to make arrangement. What if you need a multi-million dollar lab to do your job? The university has to find the money, and they'll try to skimp and you'll have to get them to spend. Often professors have to relocate their entire families across the country, often to a small town they've never seen before. Sometimes the spouse has to find a job, too, and two weeks isn't very long to look for a job. 

It's a different game. There are some benefits, like really good benefit and retirement packages. But there also some downright nasty drawbacks. I have witnessed a negotiation where the employer realized the they didn't have to give the job candidate anything he wanted, because the candidate's wife was in the area already. In other words, the candidate wanted the job to join his wife, from whom he had been apart for years. For him the choice was between accepting a less-than-desirable total package and living apart from his loved ones. With that said, I know academic couples who have lived apart for decades because they just couldn't find jobs in the same area, or even the same continent. 

By now I know that I didn't get the first offer of the second place. So I get to wait for two weeks. Unless the negotiation falls apart at the first place, I am unlikely to get a call. I don't think the negotiation will fall apart, because the person they've offered the job to is, like me, escaping a highly toxic environment.

I'm shaken. And sad. I may not be so smart with money, but I'm one of the smartest people in my field. I just don't have a whole lot of luck.

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Fri, 02-22-2013 - 5:14pm

I wish a simple "chin up" would help you.  Undecided

Here is my affirmation from treatment years ago:

"I am a valuable and important person and worthy of the respect of others."

I don't know what your belief system is, but I believe God has a plan.  Growing pains are called such for a reason.  It hurts and it is uncomfortable, but it is the only way we grow.  

Hang in there.  We all love you here.  Laughing

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