DSS moved out yesterday.
Yea, he stole more from his mother than he ever stole from us, so it was a tough decision, but I also have to think of my DD12. What his mom is going to do, I don't know. She has already paid dearly financially at his hand. Sadly, he may have to face adult consequences if he can't stop. So far he has only received a slap on the hand as a minor. Oh, and we did try an allowance, but to no avail.
Aww kind of a lose, lose for all around isn't it?
IT is hard when kids don't have their own funds and feel a need to steal, or don't understand the responsible issues regarding money. Don't know how much counseling you did, but gosh this all seems to be pretty deeply rooted stuff.
We did the allowance thing with extra money for extra jobs and that seemed to work well - it meant some weeks I was paying them $200 or more, but we made the plan and they did the work!
I read your post on MSMW. I love your posts.
I was sorry to hear of the situation but I know it will relieve some stress. He will grow up one day and things will be different.
Hang in there. I so want to hear what you decide to do with your tax return!
I'm so sorry to hear of this ugly situation. It seems like the right thing to do. You didn't have very much of a choice. Your DSS chose that path for himself, and it's not right that you should pay for it.
Ugh... I'm sorry it had to come to that serenity.
((hugs)) to you and SO for dealing with that.