OT: A Penny for your Thoughts?

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OT: A Penny for your Thoughts?
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Sat, 11-19-2011 - 9:45am

Hey board: This has been bugging me since yesterday.....My SO, whom I've been with for years and trust and love, said that he does not think I'm the most beautiful person he's ever seen.

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Mon, 11-21-2011 - 1:56pm

Hey CL...great to hear from you again.

Norma


"Patience is the best remedy for every trouble"- Plautus


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Mon, 11-21-2011 - 1:07pm
mahopac wrote:

Your feelings are reasonable, but you also asked a question that was a bit unfair to your SO.

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Mon, 11-21-2011 - 12:59pm

Your feelings are reasonable, but you also asked a question that was a bit unfair to your SO.

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Mon, 11-21-2011 - 11:58am
I guess I don't think that is a fair question to ask your SO, there was no way for him to answer successfully. It is like saying, "Honey, do I look fat in this?" Yes, if you are overweight, you look fat - period!
I figure there are 7 million people in the world, many are pretty darn good looking, many are not by our American standards. But the key is that my DH and I are a great fit. It is his mind that attracted me to him and him to me. We talk for HOURS, we cuddle endlessly, we totally enjoy being together and making one another happy.
And now that I am approaching 50, I have wrinkles, I am not as perky and I sag in places you don't want to know. But he loves the person inside, not the package outside.
The key is to be healthy and love yourself for who you are, not expecting others to validate you!
-Marie
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Sun, 11-20-2011 - 5:40pm

Well don't be so hard on yourself.

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Sun, 11-20-2011 - 10:32am

External beautiy is only skin deep, and if that's what your significant other is talking about, maybe you could try to get a better sense of how much he values that in his heart of hearts. Perhaps he was really just interpeting the question as "bust-wasit-rear" proportions.

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Registered: 11-04-2011
Sun, 11-20-2011 - 8:37am

Thanks for all your responses even though this was so unrelated to debt!!

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Registered: 07-24-2001
Sat, 11-19-2011 - 10:13pm

Oh please honey . . . please, please don't feel badly.

You don't sound superficial.

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Registered: 10-01-2009
Sat, 11-19-2011 - 7:42pm

Hi there-

None of us are with the most beautiful or handsome person we have ever seen.

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Registered: 07-15-2003
Sat, 11-19-2011 - 11:50am

I also have to add - my husband is not the most beautiful man I've ever seen! Hello! George Clooney, Brad Pitt, Gerard Butler, the list goes on and on, lol!


 


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