Retire from my 2nd Job?

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Retire from my 2nd Job?
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Tue, 01-24-2012 - 1:24pm

As you all know, I work full time, then teach at night part time, college level.

#Marie

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Tue, 01-24-2012 - 2:15pm

What would you do?

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Tue, 01-24-2012 - 2:20pm

This really is a very personal decision so I don't feel like I can offer you any advice, but I did want to tell you how impressed I am with everything you manage to accomplish.

For me, down time is very, very important.

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Tue, 01-24-2012 - 2:36pm
Thans demontespan and bumblingalong -

Yes, I do incur mileage which is why I won't teach more than 50 miles away now. We earn too much overall to right off the mileage on our taxes, so we eat that money and I kind of took it out of the NET income figure. These are all the equivalent of community colleges or private schools that need adjuncts here or there. One campus does pay me mileage, and that check came in handy for this past Christmas, but the others that have more classes available do not.
No it does not have to be all or nothing, but it means keeping up with workshops to stay current.
Online - good idea - I am better in person, but should check into more online availability.
Bumbling - I have always been a type A goal oriented person. I do get downtime at the cabin (while cooking, cleaning and yard work) but I think that now nearing 50, I want more ME time. I loved seeing my mom this weekend, putsing in the kitchen and having time to clean the house!
I guess I feel guilty if I do not feel I am helping my husband, and the family as much as I can. I try to fund my own indulgences so I never feel I am taking anything away from them. I look at my regular pay as covering my cost of living and debts and this extra income as covering things I "want" like the gym, a vacation, gifts or even new clothes.
Yeah, I am wacko!! I know.
-Marie
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Tue, 01-24-2012 - 4:16pm
Honestly Marie, for all the years I've known you, I could never understand how you managed to accomplish all of this (and meals from scratch!) without collapsing. I'm your age and I don't know that I would have the energy to keep it up year after year.

I agree with PP. I don't know if I could make a decision for you, but I also value my downtime a great deal. I would rather pinch a few pennies than exhaust myself.

But then again, you seem to really enjoy what you are doing. Maybe you could look at the problem this way: take the money out of the equation. IF you take a great deal of enjoyment from the classes, keep going. IF you are starting to wear out and you aren't enjoying it as much, maybe scale down?

I'm confident you will make the right choice for yourself, my friend.

Kate


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Tue, 01-24-2012 - 4:49pm

Kate -
I think you hit the nail on the head, I am wearing out and not enjoying it as much due to the increasing bureaucracy of teaching. Do you know we can't even grade in red pen anymore because students might consider it offensive?

I think 6 more weeks (the end of this winter term) and I am done, unless I can just tutor on an ad hoc basis or if my favorite location has a class I really like to teach that does not conflict with my travel schedule for work. Those limits will probably help me get through the couple months I know we are really tight budget wise.

I am really enjoying getting back into running - but that only takes an hour, not 4 hours an evening, so I still have time to go home and make a nice dinner for DH and I after a run, or at least be home by 7 after working out at the gym.

Oh, and the "how does she do it" LISTS, Kate, lots and lots of lists!! But of course I do not have an ounce of the sense of humor you have!

I am going to save the last checks for some summer clothes. I have gone down to a size 6 petite now and all my pants and summer things are way big.

-Marie

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Tue, 01-24-2012 - 5:49pm
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Kate -
I think you hit the nail on the head, I am wearing out and not enjoying it as much due to the increasing bureaucracy of teaching. Do you know we can't even grade in red pen anymore because students might consider it offensive?

I'm in higher education, too, so I know what you're talking about. Certain aspects of education theory have become so... nanny-like that they are more concerned with hypothetical possibility of harming students' ego than the reality of teaching. At least in the version I heard, the worry wasn't so much that some students might complain -- after all, no one ever complained about the ink color -- but that the students' are so fragile that corrections in red from the big bad professors might just make them feel bad. After all, red is the color of blood. The last I heard, green was the recommended color. I grade in red.

I think you want to quit. So let me give you some reasons. Adjunct teaching, which seems to be what you're doing, is grossly underpaid and exploitative. You don't get any benefits or work support, and you've probably thrown the heaviest classes to teach. Not only do you get some of the largest classes, you are probably put on the front line to deal with problem students. $600 a month for such classes? Some might say it's a fair wage because you're just teaching one class, but it takes yeas of training and experience to teach at the college level, and to do it well takes even more. Much of the money you earn for the college is going elsewhere. I think the red ink or the red tape rather pale by comparison to the fundamental economic inequity.

You can always get back to adjunct teaching if you change your mind. In the mean time, you can see how your life may open up with the extra time and energy. We're working so we can have a life, aren't we? Sometimes it helps to review where you've arrived.

Now that I got you worked up, you can go and tell your chair you quit. Just don't burn any bridges, because you'll want to keep your options open.

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Tue, 01-24-2012 - 9:12pm

Dear Marie-

Gosh this is such a big decision!!

For seven years I worked my full time job and then had a side business in the same field. I worked crazy long hours anywhere from 60-80 hours week which enabled me to pay off my student loan, sizable down payment on my house as well have a very healthy pension for my age.

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Wed, 01-25-2012 - 11:31am

Hi Marie,

I wanted to see what everyone else said before I responded.

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Thu, 01-26-2012 - 11:00am

Poorboy, Duke, Karen, and everyone else -

#Marie
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Registered: 07-27-2009
Fri, 01-27-2012 - 4:34pm

Whatever happened to your seedling idea that you spoke of a while ago? Has there been any progress made on that front? Maybe a redirection of your path is exactly what you need :)

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