Saturday morning

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Saturday morning
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Sat, 08-11-2012 - 9:19am

Hello!  It is CRAZY over here.  I can't begin to describe the stresssssss and craziness of it all. 

I have summer cabin fever.....I am inside all day working, then it is too hot to be outside after work, then I have obligations that steal my daytime, then it is night, and I can't go anywhere......and FINALLY when I had a chance to sit at my own apt pool in the evening (I visited the one at my SO's weeks ago briefly), it was LOCKED apparently due to some mishap.......soooo........AAAHHHH!!!!  What happened to my summer???????? I may run away today......I may HAVE to run away........but I have to make us several hours I missed at work this week because of caretaking of my uncle.  (Does anyone want to buy him?  I can't keep him anymore.......)

HOWEVER, I have a long vacation coming up at the end of the month.  I have a lot I can do without overspending, but mostly I want CHANGE OF SCENERY.  Also, I want UNSCHEDULED TIME TO MYSELF.  This is  a challenge because there are so many things that interfere with my life lately......and the uncle caretaking has been very unpredictable and time consuming lately....and there is s surgery coming up for him that I am going to be missing a lot of work for.  NOT HAPPY.

Some one suggested in a previous post I wrote that perhaps my uncle could move in with me to help with expenses.  I just wanted to say that would be impossible given his health and that I have a small apartment that would never work for that (although the couple in the next apartment have done that with their MIL...............yikes............and when they do not want her in the apartment for whatever reason, THIS IS TRUE!!!!!!, they put her in a rolling desk chair and put her in the middle of the hallway...............AND SHE SMELLS SOOOOOO BAD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  She just sits there in the center of the hall because she can't move the chair, and it's so CREEPY!!!!!!!).  Also, he needs constant social interaction which I could never provide for him.......and he has dementia.......I'd never be able to handle it.  The asisted living takes care of all that, expensive YES, but worth almost every cent.  (they made 2 big screw ups this week however, so I have to deal with that)

BUT...here is today's story......I got an awful phone call from a relative last week.  Her ex-husband was paying for their daughter to go to an expensive college (which she never thought was a good idea), and now he has lost his job after buying a mini-mansion and new cars in the last 9 months, and he can't pay for the college anymore.  (He has no savings) Since this is her senior year coming up, it is devistating for her to find out a month before classes begin that she can't return unless there is s miracle.  Her mother has no money, and NO I am not giving them any money.  She may have to finish at a cheaper college at home, but right now everyone is in shock about the mess.The father is very irresponsible, and he lost his job because he was careless about his work, but historically, he has been careless about a lot of things, and his family never came first.  There are other awful debt related details to the story, but all I can do is say what-a-shame and them LEND them my emotional support but NOT LEND them or give them any money......everyone has to learn from this, and I certainly hope the daughter does.  ALSO, if any kids are reading this, DON'T pick a college because the person you have a crush on is going there.......That's another story  Yikes.

I made payments on all my credit cards yeterday.....then I set up the next payments.  Same for the car loan.  That's good, but I have to keep at it and not spend.

I have to work from home for a few hours this morning then I get to clean the house..........but I may run away from home.......no, gotta set a good example and be responsible....!

Littlesbigs

 

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Mon, 08-13-2012 - 3:15pm

It was my crappy suggestion to move him in. I was just throwing it out there. If he has dementia than that is definitely not managable. My mother told me she never wants to live with ANY of her children, EVER. So it's not for everyone but I know ppl do it.

I know what you mean about summer, we have had no time off ourselves. It has been work, work and work. I am hoping we can take a mini-vacation in Sept before it gets cold. We cant' afford anything really so I'm thinking of sleeping in the car w/the little guy while DS1 & DH sleep in the tent. Not ideal but it's a family vacation!!


Dee

 

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Registered: 10-01-2008
Mon, 08-13-2012 - 1:51pm

Hey LB, just keep your focus on the end of the month.  Maybe you can excape for a few days, if nothing else to a nice scenic park for a hike or something. 

Take care....mentally & physically.

Norma


"Patience is the best remedy for every trouble"- Plautus


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Registered: 10-02-2011
Mon, 08-13-2012 - 12:38pm

Hey, Littles, the story about your neighbors is crazy. But I am guessing that they don't have a whole lot of choice? 

Sorry to hear about your relative's ex-husband's daughter (your niece?). It sounds like if there is money for a new car and a mini-mansion, there should be money for her last year of tuition. She can't exactly transfer at the last minute. The earliest would probably be the spring term. Where she graduates from will matter in her future, and I hope she and her father will make a wise choice.