Saying "NO"

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Registered: 11-14-2008
Saying "NO"
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Mon, 03-12-2012 - 4:17pm

I read a great article from moneysense just now related to saying no to projects that do not pay you money.

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Community Leader
Registered: 08-25-2006
Wed, 03-14-2012 - 12:36pm

Great topic Gal!

I don't have time to read the article, but I did scan the thread.

Serenity
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Registered: 07-24-2001
Wed, 03-14-2012 - 1:13pm

I was thinking about this topic more . . .

When my children were young they belonged to a group that required a great deal of parental help, from fundraising, to organizing events, to helping with projects.

Community Leader
Registered: 08-25-2006
Wed, 03-14-2012 - 2:08pm
((((( "The world is divided into two types of people; those who TALK about how busy they are, and those who are too busy getting things done to stop and talk about it." ))))

Love it! I totally agree.
Serenity
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Registered: 08-24-2007
Thu, 03-15-2012 - 5:08am
Love it also! And I totally agree.

It's kinda sad... I'm so accustomed to people flaking-out on commitments that it doesn't even phase me anymore. Actually, if I were to start saying "no", I think I'd start with those scenario's, where there is an expectation that I will pick up somebody else's ball.

Serenity, I like what you wrote about saying "yes" with no resentment. This may sound strange, but I was thinking that I should also say "no" with no resentment. Sometimes I feel resentment when people ask me for inappropriate favours. Perhaps I should strive to answer an honest "yes" or "no" without labelling it ... which sounds like what you do?

Kate


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Registered: 05-09-2002
Thu, 03-15-2012 - 10:23pm

GREAT points!!!

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Registered: 05-16-2009
Sat, 03-17-2012 - 10:07pm
I am really good about saying no and I think some people get really irritated with me. But I feel this is why my money situation is better than most people I know. At work when we are asked to give money or bring something in that involves spending money I don't do it. For example my boss this week decided that we should all donate items for these 40 care packages that are being made for some men and women who are entering the military. Nice thought, but I am not going to participate. She didn't ask, she demanded which is how she works. It would involve me spending money that I need for more important things. I don't give to anything including the hospitality committe we are supposed to give to every year.

I guess I am pretty frugal. For the most part people don't ask me for money cause they know better. I didn't do this intentionally, but somehow my family has the impression that we are not doing well financially. I think this is because we exhibit such frugalness that they make that assumption. This is good cause no one asks us for help with anything. My mother made a comment to me on the phone just this morning asking me where my money goes. She assumed we were having trouble because we got rid of directv. We are actually doing very well, but she doesn't know that. I got rid of directv so I could apply that $90 towards something else.
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Registered: 05-16-2009
Sat, 03-17-2012 - 10:13pm
We teachers are forced to do unpaid internships and are not guaranteed a job.
Community Leader
Registered: 08-25-2006
Sun, 03-18-2012 - 12:53pm

Happy, it is interesting how we perceive things, isn't it? I remind myself when I see people with more toys than me, nicer house and cars than me, do more expensive activities, etc. that they may, or may not, really be able to afford all of that. Many probably have a lot of debt. Not all, of course, but we know society today readily accepts debt as a part of life.

Like I always tell my SO, it is not about how much money we have, but how we choose to spend it.

p.s.

Serenity

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