Scary start-up

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Registered: 12-31-2010
Scary start-up
Fri, 01-18-2013 - 12:23pm

As most of you "residents of DSG" know, I went into my own business last year.  It was scary but I took the plunge into my passion.  I had a great emergency fund, our debts were really going down, and we were getting to be in good shape - not great, but good and I took an offer to make the move, and my husband says my face is so bright every day and he is so happy to see me so passionate.  I was at an event last week, and met some other women in the field, who had nothing but encouragement for me, as well as really sound advice.

Well now most of the eFund is gone!  I have a couple thousand left, but that is a baby efund compared to what I had. My goal was to be at 50% of my prior pay by now, but it is more like 25%.  I can no longer project out a 6 month payment plan, and that scares the heck out of me.  DH's pay dropped, even with a small raise, because our healthcare went up $180 a pay for the SAME coverage, thanks Obamacare!  (OK, some of our prescriptions are covered now, and are primary Dr co-pay is down from $40 to $10.)  The hit is about $500 a month less from his pay, which is substantial, and we don't spend that much in medical to make up for it.  Right now he brings home only 51% of his gross pay due to all these deductions.

DH bought a truck this fall and it was a great deal, and was planning on selling his outright.  Well then DS's old car we gave him started acting up, so we gave him the truck, with expectations he pays us back.  We did give DD $2500 for a car this year, and she paid the rest for hers.  To make things equoal, we took the same $2500 off the value of the truck (as DH had a buyer for $11k, so we valued it at $10k for DS, then took $2500 off that price.)  Now he owes us $7500.  He still has no college job, so I am worried about that deal and don't expect really anything from him.  The truck sale was supposed to pad our eFund again, but that is not happening.  Again, scary!  But to buy a car for DS would be far more than the value of the truck for something that is older, with more miles and an unknown history.  And repairing the 1995 Chevy seemed pointless as it was getting too old.  We did get $1000 for it, that was ours.

I am doing what I consider the "right" thing to do in my new position, with regard to obtaining and helping clients and prospects.  The potential for growth is really there doing the right things, and I am getting good feedback, just the wheels of income turn very slowly, so my income is not where I expected so far.  My mentor threw me for a loop a couple weeks ago, with his future plans, which could be good for me.  We are doing a lot of education, and from that have a lot of potential in the works. Issue is that we meet with people 3-4 times to do fact finding, analysis and then make recomendations, a process that might take 3 months or more in some cases.  Again, it is the right process, just slow for someone working on no salary. 

Our pantry and freezers are stocked.  We should not need much at all but basics for a while.  Our vacation in March is a road trip to Florida to stay with in-laws, so no big trip there either. Taxes, insurance and big bills are paid for the next 6 months.  We also expect a pretty good tax refund and will file asap, which will pay any big bills (car insurance) coming late this spring. 

With DH's pay, I just need about $2.5k a month to make it with a little wiggle room, it was only $2k, but his paycheck hit increased demands on me.  And I need to invest in the busines - computers, continued education, marketing, supplies, etc.  I have put my retirement savings on hold for now.

So I guess what I need is encouragement.  I know I can do this, can do it with integrity and build slowly by reputation. There are so few women in this industry and it is actually dropping.  I am working 60-80 hours a week, but I LOVE IT.

Or should I throw in the towel and go back to a salary world?

-Marie, eating rice and bean soup!



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Registered: 08-25-2006
Fri, 01-18-2013 - 7:01pm

I admire any one who is willing to take that kind of risk to do something they love.  I don't know where the line in sand is for you and your DH, but unless that day comes, I say keep plugging away.  

Doesn't it take a good two years, at least, for a new business to show a profit?  Or something like that.  

The only other thing I would add is to keep your DS accountable for the auto loan.  It may take a few years, but I wouldn't let him off the hook.  If I understand correctly, this an area where you treat the kids equally.  So if you let him off the hook, are you going to feel like you need to accomodate DD in some way to keep everything equal?

Anyways, chin up!!  If it is time to go back to a salary a some point, your gut will tell you.  I waited too long to give up the fight and got myself in crazy debt.  Luckily I never quit my regular job.   But I don't see you doing that, so keep at!  You can do it!