So very tired...

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Registered: 04-08-2008
So very tired...
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Fri, 01-31-2014 - 1:07am

As Norma counts down to her debt free life (YAY and congrats), my time in my higher pay job winds down. I've been working temporarily in a different position helping to close down the business. I have my other job to go back to - but I really don't want to do that. It is much less pay and the title isn't as impressive. I am not trying to flippant but I have learned that being a "director" means more than being a "manager" regardless of the work itself. No, I'm not a director but I once was before baby.

I have been going to school FT, working FT, keeping my healthy lifestyle (food and exercise), fitting in time w/the kids AND looking for a new position. I'm so tired of it. All the covering letters and applications take time. I've sent out 35 applications and gotten 5 responses. This means I had to write proposals, exams, etc before I get the interview. I've only gotten 3 interviews - this one proposal due Mon so I might get that interview too. This lastest proposal will quite probably take me 15 hours!

But I have to keep reminding myself that every one of these jobs are way better than any I have ever had. IE, they are worth it. I can't give up, right?

Ugh.

In monetary terms, we are back on budget. We are also building up a large EF, have next month's vacation money put aside and even started saving for our summer vacation. When I say "vacation" it is within few hours drive, in off peak times for the cheapest I can find, LOL. But all work and no play.....I don't want to live that way :)

Cheers,

Dee

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Registered: 08-25-2006
Fri, 01-31-2014 - 12:44pm

So glad you have some vacation plans in place.  You are right that we have to have some down time.  

It sounds like the opportunity cost for you will be worth it in the long run.  But I don't blame you for being tired.  I have been working and doing school part time for my 4th year and I am getting burned out.  In my case, there is no set destination, so I will have not only measure opportunity cost, but financial cost if I don't qualify for financial aid after getting married.  

I have to ask, but are you able to get a full day with no homework in during the week?  I don't know how, with your schedule, but I think it is really important to make that happen.  If you are anything like me, you will read your text book while watching TV with the family, or what have you.   But it just isn't the same as a full 24 hours with no homework.   Usually I try to get done what I can early in the day then have the rest of the day to spend with family.  Not 24 hours, but better than nothing.  

Hang in there!!!  It sounds like this will all be worth it for you in the end.  

Serenity

Serenity
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Registered: 04-08-2008
Fri, 01-31-2014 - 1:23pm

A whole 24 hours? No way! I am taking a couple hours right now before my day begins. I have to go shopping for supplies so I can make "hockey guy" cupcakes and a rink for DS1's birthday cake. His party is tomm.

I do have a "day" planned for Super Bowl Sunday. The local rink has an all women, all day hockey tournament for us while the men watch football. But most of the women watch too...I love the Seahawks! I'll catch what I can between games because I'd rather play than watch. Three games of ice hockey with a couple of beers and I'll be tired againt tho...

How can you do this for 4 years? I can't. That is amazing! How long until you done? It is a 4 yr FT program or post graduate?

Dee

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Registered: 08-25-2006
Fri, 01-31-2014 - 2:50pm
I only work 3 days a week at a small office and I am only doing school part-time. In theory, the combination right now is 48 hours a week. I never went to school, so I started at zero. I still have another 24 credits after this school year just to get a two year business transfer degree. I take summers off and the first two years I usually only took 6 or 7 credits versus the 8 credits a term I am doing now. So to answer your question, that is how I have managed for 4 years. Even part-time, I still occasionally have to make myself take an entire day with no homework. Forty Eight hours is still 6 days a week, KWIM?
Serenity
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Registered: 10-01-2008
Fri, 01-31-2014 - 3:57pm

I'm tired too Dee.  Between health, work, home and this terrible weather, I'm feeling a little fatigue too.

Maybe you are pushing you schooling a little too hard.  It is critical that you have the education to get higher pay?  In other words, will what you pay for your education out weight what you would make in salary?  Just remember to enjoy life and not to stress too much as this can take a toll on you health, mental & physical.

Hang in there!

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Registered: 04-08-2008
Fri, 01-31-2014 - 5:56pm

Oh yes, I understand. I'm afraid to take the summers off in case I can't force myself back in Sept.

I had 66 credits when I returned from my 20s when I worked 50 hours/week and still took classes. So I've done this before. 16 years later, I return and am told "everything counts still"...then after I sign up, "but not for that degree, or that degree...or any degree as they have specific program requiremeents...grrr. So I only got 36 credits (and I had to fight for that).

I have been taking 12 credits a semester for 4 consecutive semesters. I have 42 more to go for the degree.

When ppl ask me what I'm doing at school (what program, etc), I say I'm getting a piece of paper, lol.

Norma - you are right. Since I have over 100 credits post secondary (plus a network diploma), I've been getting past the initial screen for higher paying jobs. In a way, it has already been paying off. I just have to nail a job on one of these interviews! :)

I am definitely cutting back to 3 classes this summer (one might be an accelerated so only 6 weeks).

Dee

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Registered: 08-25-2006
Mon, 02-03-2014 - 5:08pm

Dee, I totally hear you on all counts.  

My lower math doesn't "count" and last spring I was at the turning point of having to decide which transfer sheet to work off of.  Because you are right, what counts for one won't necessarily count for another, etc. etc.  I meandered a little bit the first two years and filled up all of my electives!   So this entire year and another year (at half-time) are all requirements.  So it has been more challenging.  

If I knew that if I did "a" then "b" was very likely to happen and I would make more money, I would be more motivated and would probably be done by now.  Twelve credits is a lot, but not insane.  

I think taking less over the summer is a really good idea.  

Serenity

Serenity