Sunday morning

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Registered: 09-22-1999
Sunday morning
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Sun, 03-04-2012 - 8:02am

Hello from the Crazy House.........I feel like I am going to lose my mind!!!!

I have been on a whirlwind of stress and constant doing, doing, doing....trying to live my own life, work a job that makes no sense, and being stuck as primary and SOLE caregiver of my uncle.

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Mon, 03-05-2012 - 10:17am

I can tell that you are a very caring person who a lot of people depend on.

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Mon, 03-05-2012 - 10:48am

Hang in there! We get what a struggle it is!

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Mon, 03-05-2012 - 1:05pm

I know EXACTLY what you are going through! I, thankfully, have my aunt and uncle help

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Mon, 03-05-2012 - 1:26pm

Dear LB,

Norma


"Patience is the best remedy for every trouble"- Plautus


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Registered: 09-22-1999
Sun, 03-11-2012 - 4:30am

Dear Jen,

Thanks for sharing and making me feel like I am not alone dealing with this!

I have already taken care of the car so he doesn't have it at athe assisted living, but he thinks he's going to get it back soon, but I remind him he still has a cataract to deal with and I try to tell him that driving may not be a good idea for him.

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Sun, 03-11-2012 - 2:02pm

You are in a tough situation, and it seems almost a test of your virtue and sense of duty. I daresay that we can understand in some measure how difficult and exhausting the caretaking has been, and will continue to be.

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Sun, 03-11-2012 - 6:19pm

Hi, Poorboy,

I think what makes this hard is that I have no sense of duty towards him, but there is a social/legal obligation I feel like is on me.

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Mon, 03-12-2012 - 10:33pm

I can see this is a sore point, and a serious point. Here's my reaction, which may or may not be useful. You're always going to feel trapped unless you can change the way your relatives view you -- as the "good girl" who will accept whatever they dump in your lap. Once they stop taking you for granted, you can then honestly reevaluate how involved you want to be in your uncle's final years, without feeling like people are taking advantage of you. I don't know what it will take for you to achieve this. I am sorry you're in this difficult situation.