Trying to see the silver lining in a lot of bad news....

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-01-2009
Trying to see the silver lining in a lot of bad news....
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Mon, 09-03-2012 - 12:03pm

 

These past two weeks have been really difficult....

Situation #1

I work for a medium sized organization that is public/private mix and provides a large number of programs.  The one that I love is a tiny program of four plus secretary.  My work was awesome for eleven years until....

Some of you may remember that several months ago my job changed significantly at work.  I was placed half time in another division and away from the work I thrive and love (it is autonomous, and intellectually and emotionally super gratifying).  At that time I was thinking well at least I'll still be able to do it half-time.

The other half is super busy but not challenging.  There were some people that resented me there as they get paid 20-25k less than I do but I did have one of my best friends there so that was OK.

Well this past friday my boss called me into her office.  She told me the original job i had will no longer exist in one month as they will be shutting that tiny program down.  I was devastated.  Two of my colleagues are laid off, the other one will continue in a reduced capacity to do that job only for internal clients and our secretary is being transferred.

My fate....I am being moved once again to another small division and made a co-ordinator....I am very unhappy this but this will give me a 5% raise.....this will be four days a week...the other day will be spent helping my other colleague in the job I had been doing in the original program.  I will now report to three bosses and my time will be so highly scheduled that I lose most of my autonomy.

I was one of the few people that loved my work and now I know like most people I will dread going in.  I know I have no choice and will accept this fate but I feel very sad and despondent about it. There is no place in these times that I will make the salary that I make with the amazing pension and benefits.  Additionally they have given me an extra week vacation so that brings me to five and a half weeks which i know is excellent.

I know I am supposed to suck it up but I can't help feeling really sad about it....

 

Scenario #2

Last week my little car needed another repair and I was getting fed up.  My debt level is high and I thought I cant afford a new car.  I told one of my home organzation clients about my situation and she said....my brother is a car dealer let me put you in touch with him.

To make a long story short.....I traded in my little car for 4k and and paid him 5k or so (blasted credit i know) and we worked out that I would work for him in terms of decorating a huge new house he is building as well as organizing the work as well as doing some work for two of his partners (we agreed on 285 billable hours at $35/h).  He sold me the car at cost and I now have a top of the line 2012 nissan altima.

Im glad that I worked that out but also a bit sad that my debt level has creeped up again.  I have decided to absorb it in my consumer debt ticker instead of starting a new one.

 

Sorry for the long post....

Duke

 

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-31-2010
Re: Trying to see the silver lining in a lot of bad news....
Sat, 09-08-2012 - 9:18pm
Duke -
I have read your post, and others and thought about how to respond. I am going to be the contrarian here, I do not believe in life long jobs. I do not believe you work to be able to retire. I do not believe you just make lemonaide out of lemons.
The difference between the middle class and those who are well off is an attitude - an attitude of working in your passion, of working due to the joy of the work, not doing something to be able to retire.
I left a "salary" job to jump off and start my own thing. I am having the most fun of my life.
I kept hearing the words of Steve Jobs: “I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself: "If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?"
HOW can you do what you love? What roadblocks are in the way? Could you form your own firm doing it instead? Don't worry about funding or anything for the moment - if you provided value, someone will compensate for value. The trick is to find that value and make it happen.

My advice, DO NOT SETTLE!! MAKE SOMETHING - take a RISK - GO FOR IT! But make it a calculated risk.
Do you have more understanding today than you did when you got out of college? You could take risk then, but somehow we get to a place where we don't want to take risk, our wide child eyes are open, then we force them closed when we have more experience, more knowledge, and it results in dampening our passion.

WHAT do you want to be KNOWN FOR? GO DO IT!

And don't tell me easier said than done, or that it is too late - I will be 50 this week and I am happier than any other time in my career. I make less right now, but I am gaining week by week, I have a plan, clear goals and I know where I am going and I don't have a safety net. BUT I am happier than any time in my life and just KNOW things are going in the right direction.

-Marie
#Marie
Community Leader
Registered: 08-25-2006
Marie, this makes me think of my dad. He loved what he did, but not who he did if for.

He did/does enjoy his hobbies to their fullest, so that was his saving grace. But for years I had wished he would/could have gone out on his own.

He retired as soon as he could at 62.

I think for some people a job is just that. A job. Simply a means to pay the bills and hopefully they get joy out of the rest of their life.

I had a counselor at the school tell me that "It sounds like your job as served its purpose." I am no longer a young single mom with young children that is only worried about paying rent, utilities and feeding her kids.

It seems, and I could be wrong, but that we either take that leap of faith when we are young, or we wait for 20 years.

I have no regrets staying here. My boss is great, good benefits, and I am spoiled. But the time for change is here.

Kind of a hijack here, but still on topic.
Serenity
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-31-2010
Serenity,
I will be 50 tomorrow and have generally liked what I did, but the past 8 years were for companies I really did not like and just took a job to deal with paying the bills, so I can totally relate.
The change I made this year was due to the fact that the kids are off and I can now follow my own passions and use the skills and knowledge I have accumulated over a lifetime.
My DH is starting his exploration this year, so he can make a move within two years to finish his career in the field he is most passionate about as well.
It is funny, but for all the worry, I am now making more than I ever did, so it is a win-win. And most people I meet who have done this, see much of the same trends. I worked this weekend, because I wanted to, not because I had to.
-Marie
#Marie
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-15-2012

Marie - your posts point the reasons DH and I want to start our own business (or buy an existing business etc).  Both of us have been busy researching the net and next week we head off to the area we want to live.  I will be 49 soon and still have relatively young kids (9 & 11).  I am ready to make these changes as scary as they are. 

Seriously thinking we should sell our house next spring/summer even if we have not found what we are looking for.  We will rent a house and keep looking and researching and when we find what we are looking for we will be ready to jump at.  No waiting to sell the house etc.  Just give notice and go.  Very scary and very exciting too!

 

Community Leader
Registered: 08-25-2006
Hey jiggy,

I think it is great you are willing to take the plunge. I am so opposite that I am sometimes a bit envious of those who do.

Serenity
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-01-2009
Wow ...thanks for your response....

You are both doing phenomenally well...

I will stick with my organization and just have a small business on the side

Thanks for taking the time to respoind....

Duke