Update on the silver lining...any feedback appreciated...

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-01-2009
Update on the silver lining...any feedback appreciated...
Mon, 09-17-2012 - 7:42pm

Hi all....

Some developments from my previous post....

 Well I had a series of meetings with one of my new bosses and they went from bad to horrible.....he was micromanaging me and I had not even started....he pulled out my previous employee evaluations that are glowing and took exception to my previous managers' enthusiasm about my  efficiency, creativity, collaborativeness, high level of analysis and innovation and stated that I was to become tough/strict with the employees, and engage in repetitive (almost meaningless tasks).  Any type of autonomy was quashed and he made it clear that I would be sending him daily reports of my activities despite the fact that I would report to him about 30 percent of my time.

My long term boss was aghast at his behavior and demands (she was present) and he told her to keep her mouth shut as I would now report to him.  He also said he did not believe in efficiency and that he worked 12-14 hour days on a daily basis and also weekends.

I told my current boss that I would not be able to work for a long time under these circumstances and that I would scope out other oppurtunities in other related industries.

Last Friday my director called me in (my boss' boss) and apologized profusely about this and that this was not good planning on her part but that the cuts had been stressful for all and the organization was being pared down and that this was the reality.   She then stated that she had an option for me....

As I mentioned before my team before was four plus secretary and we handled high risk issues for internal/external clients.  Our sister department was also whittled down (they manage low/medium risk) to two staff but one announced that she would retire early  last week.  So that left a position open....and they created a position for me that is wonderful....

3.5 days I would manage low-med risk issues and the other 1.5 day I would do my old high risk cases job....

So we would now be a department of three with a part time secretary.-all our work would be for internal clients as the external service was eliminated in the downsizing.

I am ecstatic and feel blessed.  The downside however is a paycut of 4000/yr as my position would now be considered Intermediate instead of Senior.  (We would have a junior person (low risk) intermediate person-me (medium risk) and my previous colleague (who has phd) in the senior role.  I would still keep my extra week vacation tho.

So I turned down my "promotion" and took a "demotion" of sorts but I am happy and excited as hell about doing work that nurtures, excites and satisfies me again.

Do you think this is a good decision?

 Some of my friends have been a bit critical and felt that one should never turn down a promotion.



iVillage Member
Registered: 10-01-2009

I want to thank you all


for your encouragement and validation of my decision.


I am back to being happy at work again and this is priceless.....



iVillage Member
Registered: 05-09-2002

Good for you!!!! AWESOME!!!!!! I recently took a pay cut to take a new job. I left a management position for non-management. I also moved 12 hours away from my home, had to start paying rent in addition to my mortgage because my husband and home are still in our hometown. I miss him, I miss my house, i am spending more (rent) and earning less. Aside from missing my husband, I have NEVER BEEN HAPPIER. (We will figure our our living situation toward the end of next year.) I am blessed to have his support 100%. I am also sleeping better, laughing more, smiling more. I am lonely here, but SUPER HAPPY at the same time. GOOD. FOR. YOU.  You had the guts to do the harder decision.   I'm happy for you.  : ) 

PS - oh and many thinks I'm crazy, some people think our marriage is on the rocks (it's not, never been stronger).  I am judged, yes, but my life, my way, our life, our way.   Screw the naysayers.   (I've eventually found out some are just plain jealous...they are bored in the lives and hate their jobs but refuse to take a risk to change it.)

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-01-2008
I'll sum up my view this way......WONDERFUL move! Duke, it's not always about the money.


"Patience is the best remedy for every trouble"- Plautus

Community Leader
Registered: 08-25-2006
I am replying off the hip without reading the thread and I think you made the right choice for YOU.

I mean, isn't that only like a couple hundred dollars less a month after taxes? And you still get the extra week of paid vacation. Sounds perfect if you ask me.

Well, considering the original circumstances you were presented with this is great.

I am telling you, sanity has no price.
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-08-2006
You took a $4000 pay cut and are avoiding 20-30 hours a week doing a job you hat. So if you work 50 weeks that would have been $2.50 -$4 an hour....I bet you could get a part time job you liked that paid minimum wage and work less hours to make more money...if the money matters...
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-14-2008
Oh yes, sounds right to me. Plus, maybe in the future you can still get an incremental raise. And I think you will get referrals from this project you are working on for the car anyway. And you can boost your income that way doing things you love all day long.
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-24-2001

Yeah Duke,  this is a no brainer . . . you made the right call.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-09-1999

Wow, quite the turn of events.  So glad you had another option & took it.  It is a bummer in the less $, but I agree with others that have said being happy in your job can help keep you healthy as well!!  A very important PERK to your new roll at your job.  Good for you & keep working at your side business!!


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iVillage Member
Registered: 10-02-2011
girly_girl13 wrote:
Excellent! I agree with your decision. $4k a year is ultimately nothing after taxes and your mental health is priceless!

I gather Canadian healthcare costs less directly, but it's probably better to make a bit less money than to get sick mentally and even physically. It's better to just lose the $4k outright than to make it, get stressed and depressed, get sick, pay the doctors, get meds, get other meds to treat the side effects, see other docs, etc.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-10-2003
Excellent! I agree with your decision. $4k a year is ultimately nothing after taxes and your mental health is priceless!

Bex -