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Sun, 02-26-2012 - 1:21pm

Right now I am staying with my son. I was put in a small room that is so crowded

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Tue, 02-28-2012 - 10:12pm

I am so sorry you are going through this Mary Ann.

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Mon, 02-27-2012 - 3:27pm

MaryAnn,

Norma


"Patience is the best remedy for every trouble"- Plautus


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In reply to: kymaiden40215
Mon, 02-27-2012 - 11:47am

Mary Ann, I agree with Marie.

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Sun, 02-26-2012 - 6:09pm
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Sun, 02-26-2012 - 5:43pm
MaryAnn -
I would suggest you call an elder law attorney that can practice in both Texas and KY or can get a partner to help you in Kentucky.
This person can help work on your behalf to make sure you are getting all you need and decisions are not forced on you.
I do not think you are being taken care of properly, but you knew that relationship was gone long ago.
I did a search on in-home care in KY and there are a lot of options available.
Wish I could help more from here.
-Marie
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Sun, 02-26-2012 - 5:14pm
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Sun, 02-26-2012 - 4:37pm
i just looked at their website to see how much they are offering in grants and it says 40K i saw u said ur home is 80K? i don't know how that would work for you, but try them out and see if they can help ur situation.
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Sun, 02-26-2012 - 4:33pm
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Sun, 02-26-2012 - 2:26pm
Mary Anne, ITA with what the pp said. Don't do anything until you are 100% sure of what you want. I think you aren't supposed to make any decisions for 6 months to a year after the death of a spouse.
I'm sorry your relationship with your son is so poor. I know that when my grandmother got dementia, my aunt had her move in with her and hired home health to do what my aunt couldn't. My uncle and my aunt even remodeled their house to accomodate my grandmother (to include adding a master suite so Grandma could have her privacy and they could have theirs). I'm sorry Michael can't (won't) take care of you like that. But, see what elder services are available in Louisville. You have access to the internet. Starting googling.
Wishing you the best and better times with your son.
GL,
Kellie
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Sun, 02-26-2012 - 1:52pm

Mary Ann,

I know we don't always see eye to eye on many issues, but I still hate to see you getting taken advantage of in such a vulnerable time.

Please DO NOT sign anything unless you are 100% sure what that piece of paper says, especially knowing how financially strapped your son and daughter-in-law are, I won't put it beyond them to slip something in such as power of attorney ...

Also, make sure that you document (perhaps a copy of the check?) what you pay them.