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|Sun, 07-08-2012 - 5:53pm|
I am happily engaged to my SO since earlier this year. Many of you know that he and I have been in a over 3 year relationship which until April 2012 it was long distance (Mtl/Ny). I now stay 3 weeks in NY and commute to Mtl 1 week per month for work. We initially were to be married in May 2013 and were planning a full out wedding with a small number of guests. Just with 20 guests at a restaurant (private dining room) serving a three course meal, beverages and with the tiered wedding cake included and all other wedding related expenses this was costing us over $10K.
$10K seems perhaps on the low end of the scale but my SO and I want to buy a house in the next 18 months plus we need to pay for my immigration (green card) expenses. More importantly there is no way we are getting in debt to get married!!!
We decided in early June to move up the wedding and do a small scale version. We are not having a reception which cut our costs by $3K. I found a sample wedding gown for $400 which normally retailed at $1K, we scaled back on our wedding bands and saved over $1500 there, no bouquet for me because I honestly don't care for them - I'll wear a flower in my hair instead so that cut $400 from the budget. We are getting married in Central Park so the permit is only $25. Photog will cost us about $2500 which is half of the current budget but we both agreed that this was really important to us and the photographer in question is a personal friend of mine who runs his own company and does very high end contracts yet we are getting him for a steal - he is a truly gifted photographer.
I could continue but the point is we managed to cut the inital $10K budget down by almost half. Yes we could have done the courthouse option and saved even more money versus hiring a wedding officiant but we wanted to be married in a beautiful setting. We are thinking we may throw a dinner party in Mtl a couple of weeks after the wedding since that's where most of the guests would have been travelling from. Immediate relatives living in NY will attend the ceremony in NY. We are paying for this ourselves as my parents and his mom cannot afford to contribute. My parents are in full support of our decision to scale back and they won't be able to attend the ceremony because of health issues. SO's mother I gather wanted a bigger production in part so she could look good amongst her family (brag...) so she is attending but is not very excited.
For those who are or have been married would you be willing to share how much your wedding cost and how you decided to go about it? What reasons led you to have the wedding you did and how do you feel about it looking back.