When is it enough?

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Registered: 07-27-2009
When is it enough?
Fri, 07-26-2013 - 11:31pm

Hi guys, I have missed the interactions that used to be so frequent here. I have been mulling this over for a while and I just want to get others thoughts (even though it is not debt related)...A while ago a friend from high school posted a comment on Facebook about how her job didn't sound important or glamorous enough. My first thoughts were, “Are you kidding me!?!” This girl went to a private, relatively prestigious women’s college, served in the Peace Corps, speaks another language, travels the world frequently, and is currently serving as an elementary school teacher. She is the girl who got strait As and is stunningly beautiful. She is one of the classmates that I have always admired for everything she has accomplished. I strive to be more giving in part because of the sacrifices that I have seen her make for her students.

I have also been struggling personally with my accomplishments being/sounding significant. I never feel like it is enough. Ironically, the reason she made the post (I later found out) was because of the job titles on my Linkedin account. So…when will it be enough for me (and her and presumably a few others in my graduating class)? Is this a generational thing? Is this just something that came from how we challenged each other throughout school? What gives? Have any of you faced this issue?

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Registered: 12-31-2010
Wed, 07-31-2013 - 8:45pm

Great thread, Jen! It is interesting to ponder these things and it sounds like a grass is always greener issue for your friend.

Love the quotes PB and Galstore - we have such a great crowd here.

Personally I have been the cute voluptuous blonde, gone to a great college, worked for some cool companies, gotten advanced degrees, but my personal life has always made me feel more at peace than my career, and I did not know that until living these last 5 years with my 2nd husband.  Being with my kids and husband makes me feel most complete.

THEN I pursued my dream profession and have a commitment to helping people.  I have my own firm, so what I do is all on me.  This new phase is really helping me feel complete, knowing what I am doing is meaningful and actually being old enough, and comfortable enough to actually use my own feelings to decide what I WANT to do.  If I do no want a client, I fire them!!  If I want to pursue something, I do pursue it.  Oh, it is scary at some point not knowing if I will do well, or even enough to allow us to survive, let alone thrive.

I did not get here until age 50, and like you, I was searching for decades.

SO I will quote Oprah as I heard her radio show when I was at a crossroad:  You define your own life, Don't let other people write you script.  Failure is a signpost to turn in another direction.  Let passion drive your profession.

I had to have the experiences I did to get where I am today.  So even if the road had a lot of potholes, and it is not guarenteed to be a smooth ride ahead, I am enjoying the journey, especially this particular part.


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Registered: 10-02-2011
Thu, 08-01-2013 - 6:28pm

"My stunningly beautiful friend"? "Cute, voluptuous blonde"??? Now you guys are just teasing me. *sulk*