When working gets in the way

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Registered: 11-14-2008
When working gets in the way
Sat, 03-17-2012 - 10:35am

Hi all,

Just thought I would post a vent note. I'm working...again. I should be at home helping with renos and bbqing, enjoying the family and feeling like progress is being made.

I mean working on a weekend is helping make progress with the savings. I am not currently paying extra on debt, just minimums on everything. I am trying to boost savings to afford my renos and baby purchases so we don't add to the debt toll.


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Registered: 04-10-2003
Mon, 03-19-2012 - 8:27am
Sure does. I currently have no life because of work, lol. I have managed to wrap myself up in it almost entirely. Ick. So that is my summer plan! Get out more. Do more things. Don't let work rule my life! We'll see how sucessful I am!!!

Bex -

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Registered: 09-20-2004
Mon, 03-19-2012 - 2:22am

When does work NOT get in the way...that is an even better question!

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-08-2008
Mon, 03-19-2012 - 1:19am

Yes work gets in the way. Every so often, my 4 year old will ask me, "who is here tomm?" which is "who is taking care of me tomm"...he had me home for

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Registered: 05-09-2002
Mon, 03-19-2012 - 12:14am
My husband is a pilot and gone 1/2 the month, which is literally half the year. Yes, work gets in the way. He was across the country on our first wedding anniversary, my last 5 birthdays, holidays, etc. But that is ok. Because he loves what he does and we have no problem making sacrifices for it. When I had to go to the hospital for emergency surgery this past year, I was lucky he got home in time. If we have kids, he will be gone for a lot but I agree with the poster who said it is about being whole. He is in the moment when he is here and that is a beautiful thing.
I've missed a ton of family stuff due to work and school. I'm not too worried about it though because I am pretty good at keeping my eyes on the finish line and the end game.
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Registered: 10-02-2011
Sun, 03-18-2012 - 8:54pm

Sorry to hear about your job, happycampingfamily. It's particularly bad when you're expected to be smart enough not to call someone on his/her lies, while that person goes on acting like an enlightened saint...

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Registered: 12-31-2010
Sun, 03-18-2012 - 6:25pm
I agree with you here. I am in that last phase of my career. I want a job wherein I control my own destiny and am able to connect with my community. I want to help people and show a more human touch. I don't want to commute or fly about at someone else's whim.
Luckily, I am at a precipice where I can make those choices and take my time to make it.
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-16-2009
Sun, 03-18-2012 - 6:23pm
Yes, sometimes work gets in the way. I think everyone could say that from time to time even people in the best of situations. I am a teacher so I have holidays and summers off to be with my kids and I didn't even start teaching until my kids started school which helped tremendously. I will say that my house is not as clean as it was when I was a stay at home mom. I also don't cook as much from scratch as I used to.

My current job gets in the way tremendously because I work in a poor toxic environment. I am bullied, harrassed, and lied to daily which takes a toll on my mental health and affects my family also so currently my work gets in the way badly. And yes, I am trying to get another job so I can work in a positive and healthy environment.
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Registered: 08-25-2006
Sun, 03-18-2012 - 1:09pm

I heard Jane Fonda say something along the lines of yes, we can have balance, but not at the same time.

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Registered: 10-28-2009
Sat, 03-17-2012 - 6:34pm

Like you, I also run my own business. I think being in this position can be both positive & negative, especially in a small business. Negative because everything is your problem, from the employees not being at work, the air conditioning not working, you name it, it's your job to figure it out, or spend the money to hire someone to figure it out.

On the positive side, being the business owner, if you would like to not work, or work less hours, you don't have to ask for permission to do so. Figuring it out is still your problem though :) Is it possible to hire one more employee as a floater for random shifts here and there? So, you can get the time you want? Maybe only a temp employee from an agency would serve a short term need? Just throwing ideas out there. Only you know what will work for your situation.

But, to answer your question - yes, work gets in the way, all the time. And I think it does for most people, maybe not all the time, but a lot. When I am having a tough day, I try to think of all the positive things my position has allowed me over the years. The good should outweigh the bad the majority of the time, imo. hang in there!

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Registered: 10-02-2011
Sat, 03-17-2012 - 6:31pm

Work is destroying my life.