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|Tue, 07-31-2012 - 2:54pm|
I first wanna introduce myself. My name is Michelle, I have a husband (of 14yrs), and we have 5 children, ranging from 13-3. My husband got out of active duty military last year (b/c he had to - not getting promoted) and things have been rough job wise/financially, etc. A little history here...DH was active in the army from '98-'01, he got out and we moved back home and he did national guard. During that time was somewhat rough as well, at least the first few months until he found a decent job and I got my old job back. In 2004 we decided together that he would go back to the army and that I would stay home with the kids (we had 2 at the time). Since then we added in 3 children (total of 5) and last yr (2011) he had to leave active duty since he was at his retention control point...meaning he had put in the maximum amount of active duty time he could in the rank that he was. He tried and tried to get promoted, but he's a big guy (not fat). He made it to the promotion board once and was told he needed to be taped again (for BMI) and was denied promotion. He tried several times after that to make it back to the promotion board, but always was so close, only .5 to 1 percent over then what they wanted. He was able to go back to national guard and he's trying to stay there so he can at least get to his 20yr mark (only another 5.5 yrs). Recently he was sent a letter from the state saying that they wanted to chapter him out. He's in the process of appealing that. We use the health ins. through the guard b/c it's much cheaper that way then through his job. Not to mention I really hate to see all those yrs wasted in the military.
Right now things are very rough financially. He has a job, but it doesn't pay that well. I have applied at a few places that are close to us to try and work in the evening, but not having much luck. We can't afford to pay a babysitter so my times are limited as to when I could even work. We are renting a 4 bedroom house, b/c we aren't allowed any smaller due to our family size, and the rent is killing us. As of now we are short $250 to make our rent payment for next month. We could borrow the money from my husband's father, but we've borrowed before (and paid it back) and I really don't wanna keep doing that. I don't even wanna think about next month. School will be starting and I still have to get some more school supplies and shoes, our electric bill is large, plus all the other bills we have to pay. We have exhausted all our savings. I have listed some things to sell, but not having a lot of luck with that either. They aren't big ticket items either, just small stuff to try and get some extra cash. Thankfully we have no debt, but we have no credit cards either to fall back on (good thing and bad thing), however, this is due to the fact that we had to file for bankruptcy back in 2007 (we had a house included in that as well).
My husband has put in his resume at lots of places too. He even was offered a position with the railroad in Dec of last yr but his medical eval. was taking too long so they rescinded their offer. They keep wanting to put him in a supervisory position at his job, but so far nothing is coming of it. Oh, and the VA is still in the processing of completing his compensation claim (been since last April). It's just one thing after another!
I'm just so frustrated. It seems we haven't been able to catch a break...especially my husband, job wise. I can only imagine how he feels!