Wednesday Wishes and/or Woes

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Wed, 01-09-2013 - 7:34pm
The days are getting longer, I like it t way. Soon we'll be getting seed catalogs. Do you plant a garden? :) I love fresh vegetables, don't you? Things are heating up between Me and my guy, he wants us to move in together or something like that. I'm OK with that, but I worry about skipping a step and going too fast. :/ Do you have any wishes and/or woes today? :)
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Wed, 01-09-2013 - 11:53pm

Hmmm moving in together is a big deal.  If you're going to do it I recommend having clear intentions and making sure he's on the same page.  The only women I know who survived the lets live together bit made it clear to their guys that after a set time frame (usually 6-12 months) they expected a proposal or they were moving on.  I think that makes sense if you want to avoid the living together forever with no idea if marriage is coming.

Lets see woes....
I have more bills/expenses than I currently have money for, but am doing everything I can to stay afloat. 

And wishes.......
I wish this temp assignment will be extended so that I don't have to go back on unemployment when I'm trying hard not to get behind. 
I wish I had another week of winter break to lay around and do nothing entirely stress free, then I'd feel rested before the semester starts.
I wish this guy at the temp assignment would ask me out already.  He's been going out of his way to hint at his interest since I started there (which surprised me because I've looked totally gross the whole time!) and it wouldn't create a conflict at all since I'm a temp and I don't work in his department.  He kind of made a half move today and I clearly gave him the green light.  If I'm not extended then this Friday is it, so he doesn't have much time.

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Thu, 01-10-2013 - 12:28am
I will definately set the ground rules, I really want to get my taxes done and see what my tax options are for me if and when I get remarried. I'm not sure where I want to live as a couple, my apartment has some really good pluses as to electric, water, and trash included in the rent, but my neghbors are way too nosy for anything remotely private. :( Apparently you didn't looked totally gross to him! ;) I bet you'll have good news after Friday! :)
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Thu, 01-10-2013 - 1:58pm

A day late and a dollar short!  Laughing

Wishes and woes - wish they would fix this board, was not able to read/post do anything all day yesterday.

Brenda, I won't worry too much about going too fast.  You seem to be very level headed and sometimes you just have to trust yourself instead of being all bogged down with "rules".   I knew he is "the one" in less than 3 months after meeting DH and made every "mistakes" according to the dating experts (did not wait to have sex, first to say those three little words, etc).  We have been together for over 5 years and have not gotten out of the the honeymoon phase. 

I was not worry about having a time frame from moving in and marriage.  This is the second round for both of us.  Neither one wanted children; and we share a very clear idea about career and finances.  Getting married was more of a legal formality and had nothing to do with feelings.  I guess I never view moving in together is prelude to marriage - I love being with him, so we live together.  Simple as that.

Since this is a finance board, one thing I would sugges, whether you two just move in or proceed to marriage, is maintain some degree of financial independence/autonomy.  Even everything works out perfectly, if something were to happen to him, you want to have resources in your own name.

I am so excited for you and hope everything goes smoothly!  Laughing

 

 

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Fri, 01-11-2013 - 2:36pm

Thank you, I'm one who listens to my heart when it comes to rules.  Innocent

I do have a level head about my finances though, I plan to get my taxes filed before changing my living arrangements.  Kiss

So far so good about me and my guy,. Wink

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Fri, 01-11-2013 - 9:12pm

sinclairwife wrote:
Apparently you didn't looked totally gross to him! ;) I bet you'll have good news after Friday! :)

This assignment (which did get extended 3 more weeks yay!) is heavy clerical.  So I'm in the dusty file room filing, packing/moving boxes, copying, etc.  There's been so much dirt everywhere I just didn't wash my hair and had dirt smudges everywhere.  I didn't stink thank heavens.  He cornered me my first day there and I just kept thinking oh why must I look awful when a cute guy is around.  Grrrr!

So today I was working and he did that whole sneak up on you thing to say hello.  Thanks heavens I had clean hair and wasn't dusty for once!  Then he sits down (he never does that) to talk to me.  There wasn't another chair so he's sitting on the desk practically on top of me lol.  He seemed very comfortable too and was in a really good mood.  So good I commented on it and he kept talking about how fantastic his day was and how he wanted to make sure he got my number before I left.  I purposely didn't tell him my assignment was extended because I didn't want him to get lazy or forget lol.  So now that he has my number I'll just have to wait and see if he calls.

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