Can I be good mom and still work!?
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Can I be good mom and still work!?
| Thu, 11-11-2004 - 11:19am |
Last Friday I adopted a cat from a foster mom. According to the foster mom he was very scared of strangers (which was evident when he met me, because he did not seemed pleased to see me.) Anyway, I adopted him because he looked like the kitty I grew up with and he was a big beautiful boy. After about 2 days in hiding he came out to cuddle on the couch and now he’s the most affectionate thing I’ve ever seen. The problem is that I feel terrible leaving him alone all day. I really don’t have room for another cat (and the foster mom had 6 cats and said that he really should be taken in to a one cat family.) I’m wondering what I can do to make sure he’s happy while I’m away?! Right now I leave the radio on when I go to work and give him a few minutes of cuddling before I leave. But he’s still all over me when I get home from work. (He won’t even eat until I’ve pet him for a few minutes). Part of me thinks that he just needs to get used to my routine since I’ve only had him for a week. Other parts of me worry that he needs someone who’s home more than I am. (Right now I’m terrified of what will happen when I go home for Thanksgiving—I’ll be away all day!)
He also just recently had a bout of FLUTD. While I will certainly keep him on the prescription food until the vet tells me not to, I’m also used to being able to leave out some dry food if I’m not back in time for his next feeding. I know I should talk to the vet about this possibility, but would also like to hear about anyone else’s experience with this.
He’s a very sweet cat, but all of this worrying prevents me from enjoying him as much as I could. I just want to make sure that I can be the best mommy he needs.

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Hello there and welcome!
Did the foster mom say why he should not be w/other cats? Was he afraid of them?
Katz
Hello there! I think that Kat is right. When I had cats I would be away at college all day. They coped fine, I just made sure there were plenty of things to occupy their minds while I was gone. Turn on the radio, plenty of new toys, especially dangly ones! I too would be nearly mauled when I got home cause my boy
Ann
"The best thing you can save for your future is your soul"
Ann
The foster mom didn't really go into detail about why he wasn't good around other cats. But I only live in a studio, so another cat might be a bit much for the space unless he was particularly tiny!
I do try to play with him for at least 20 or so minutes to get all the friskies out of him. (Plus, he probably could use the excersize!) and then we usually cuddle-up on the couch for the rest of the night.
His name when I got him was Bruce which my whole family has embraced. But I'm still on the fence about it. I'm thinking of naming him something more regal like Bruce Von Katzenberg or some such thing, just so I have some choices. Lately I've been calling him either Pudd or Sweets depending on his mood.
I love that name!
Katz
LMBO!!
Ok you want to hear something a little crazy? I leave the TV on for my bunnies! : ) They absolutely adore cartoon network and FoodTV. : ) They will sit there and stare at me indignantly if it isn't on. They're really good at guilt! They may not meow but they have their "looks" and they thump when they're pissed. LOL!
As for my cats, I would get so much guilt as well when I knew so much better that the one would just sleep on a shelf I had hanging on the windowsill, it was
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