I lost one of my cat's today!

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I lost one of my cat's today!
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Wed, 08-04-2004 - 11:00pm
I lost my cat Troy today. She was about 7 years old. *Troy, was a girl, with a boy name* She had slipped out of the house, and I could not find her. I came in the house after looking for her, for a couple hours and she was laying next to her bowl. I don't know what happened, or how she got in the house by herself. She couldn't walk on her own too well, so I carried her in the den. She was trying to eat. So I opened a can of food, for her and she ate it VERY fast. So I thought it was a good sign, and maybe she was just in shock. I didn't see any blood at all. A kid (so they say...he's 17 years old) just burned a neighbor dog almost to death for fun, so I don't dare leave my animals alone (not that I did before). I know I should have just rushed out, but stupid me. I wasted valuable time. I asked my neighbor to come over, to watch my puppy and other cats, and told her what happened. She has the same vet, and said he is on vacation, but to call the on-call one as they have moved. I got the card in the mail today...too late. She was not sure where, so rather than waste time driving around I called. I was on the phone for maybe three minutes, I heard a LOUD whine. I went into the den, and she had already died. I just KNEW I should have left her in my bedroom, but NO I was too afraid her and Doug (one of my other cats) would not get along (as they often had fights)or she would ruin something, so I lured her out. I should have just left her in there. I was SO stupid to not have her stay there. It is totally MY fault. She was from an abused home, and it took her FOUR years to let me near her, and another year, for her to allow me to touch her. She was just starting to come around alot this past year. WHY did I not leave her in my bedroom. I am SO stupid. But, I was too afraid that she would have an accident, or ruin something...that could be replaced. I am SUCH a bad cat owner. I am beginning to wonder if I deserve my other animals. I don't know what happened to her. I guess the vet wants to run some tests and all to see what happened to her. I know that it was my fault that she died, but no one here really understands the loss of a cat. I still cry ALOT over the death of my first cat Kitt and that was 2/27/98. I cry just like it was yesterday that he died. Everyone tells me to get over it, it was just a cat. But, my cats are NEVER just cats. They are my heart and soul. I just hope Troy knew that I loved her. Thanks for listening!
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Registered: 12-01-2003
Wed, 08-04-2004 - 11:25pm
I am so sorry and please do not feel it was your fault. It could have been so many things and you loved him so much. My thoughts are with you! As for the neighbor boy,I hope something was done with him!!!!!!!

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Registered: 09-24-2003
Wed, 08-04-2004 - 11:59pm

I'm so sorry for the circumstances in which you lost your dear kitty ^Troy^. Please don't blame yourself. I know that words don't seem very comforting, but please know we are all here for you.


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Thu, 08-05-2004 - 8:03am
I'm so sorry for your loss.
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Thu, 08-05-2004 - 8:58am
I'm so sorry to hear this. Of course it's not your fault. You loved her so. She knew that. That's why she finally came around. I'm sure the tests will tell you that it was something unpreventable. My Abby died suddenly of unknown causes. Vet said it may have been a clot or aneurysm, as Cat said. You were good to her, & she had a good last half of her life.
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Thu, 08-05-2004 - 10:17am

I'm so very sorry for you loss of ^Troy^.


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Registered: 04-07-2003
Thu, 08-05-2004 - 11:59am
Like the other posters siad, this is not your fault! It does sound like a blood clot or aneurism - and they happen so suddenly that there is nothing you can do to stop them. We had a dog once who was perfectly healthy, and then one day she suddenly started having seizures, foaming at the mouth, and couldn't even support her own weight. Turned out it was an aneurism, but the vet had to put her down because he suspected rabies at first. By local law, any animal suspected of rabies has to be put down. She was only 7 years old too.


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Thu, 08-05-2004 - 4:44pm
It seems like you could use a hug. I know it is easy to blame yourself for the loss of your cat. I did the same thing when my cat T passed away 7 months ago. T stopped going to the bathroom and gradually pretty much stopped eating. I was working a lot of overtime at my job. My hubby went to pick her up and noticed that she had lost a lot of weight. We took her to the vet that week and she had a blockage from not going to the bathroom. I have other cats and so I did not notice she had stopped going to the bathroom. I blamed myself for her death for a long time and still have a hard time with it. I keep thinking that if I had been home more I would have noticed a change in her behavior. I visited her at the animal hospital the night before she died and the vet thought she would make it through this. The next day she died while being treated. I still feel like I never got to say good bye to her.

It is always hard to loose a pet. It is just like loosing a human member of the family. All you can do is give your pets a good home and lots of love. Pets hide their health problems very well and you can not be there for your pet or anyone else 24-7. You gave your cat a good home and lots of love. There is no reason to doubt you can care for the rest of your pets now. Time will heal the pain from the loss but you will always remember the special times you spent with your cat. Instead of placing blame focus on giving yourself and the other animals time to grieve. Your other animals will also grieve and need your love and support. Hang in there my thoughts and prayers are with you.

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Registered: 03-24-2004
Thu, 08-05-2004 - 5:00pm

I am sorry for your loss.

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Registered: 05-06-2004
Fri, 08-06-2004 - 9:54pm
My cat suddenly couldn't walk, lost all feeling in his lower part of body, he was about 7-8 yrs. old, cried out in pain. Took him right to the vet, several days later, had to put him to sleep. Vet said it was probally cancer. This happened right before my eyes. Its sad when a healthy cat suddenly dies. At least they aren't suffering anymore. You gave your cat your time, gave her shelter, companionship, food and showed her love. You gave the cat a wonderful life. Hold on to that. donna
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Registered: 06-10-2003
Fri, 08-06-2004 - 11:23pm
I am so sorry to hear about your ^Troy^.