missing my dog a lot

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Registered: 05-14-2001
missing my dog a lot
Thu, 05-01-2003 - 12:34am
My dog Ruby was sick for two days and she got worse fast. She was starting to look better on Monday, but died that night. I missed her a lot and I still do even though she hasn't been gone that long. I missed school yesterday because I couldn't really stop crying. We buried her yesterday and that was probably the worst part. I keep on thinking of her wagging her tail like she always does and I know I wont see that anymore. We have lots of pets but she was MINE. She was always with me and she slept in my room and she liked me best.I fed her too, as I do all the pets. It feels weird to feed all the animals and not her. I can still visit her grave because it's right across the street from our house but it's not the same at all. My mom is letting me use her name to write this because I'm 11.

~ cl-2nd_life



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Thu, 05-01-2003 - 1:50am
I'm so sorry for the loss of your beloved Ruby! She will always be with you because she remains in your heart.

Please tell your mother that there is a Pet Bereavement board here on the Pets Channel that she might want to check out. The ladies there are so supportive!

And I think you are supposed to be 13 years old before posting on the message boards here at iVillage, but I could be wrong. We've some recent changes lately.

Best of luck to you, little lady, and I won't likely forget your heartfelt message any time soon.

Hugs, *C*

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Thu, 05-01-2003 - 10:52am
Oh I am so, so sorry! How your poor heart must be breaking, it's so hard on us all when we lose our loving and sweet little furbabies. They are our best friends, there for us no matter what.

I lost my best buddy last February 9th and I still miss him dearly (he had heart problems). ^Mr Magoo^ was an awesome little guy.

^Ruby^ (with her new angel ^wings^) is now at the Rainbow Bridge running free in the flower filled fields. If you've never read about the Rainbow Bridge, you can find it at the Pet Bereavement Board here at ivillage. It's listed at the top of the board. There's also a nice selection of comforting poems listed within the board itself (towards the bottom of the page). Here's the link to the Pet Bereavement Board:


My thoughts and prayers are with you, my heartfelt sympathies...

^Mr Magoo^'s mom ~ Marge

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Thu, 05-01-2003 - 3:16pm
My heart aches for what you're going through. I lost my dog, ^Smokey^ on January 6 and still miss him, sometimes as much as the day after he got his wings. But you aren't alone. There are people who know your pain and share your loss and your ^Ruby^ will always be with you, too, watching over you from the Rainbow Bridge and living, forever young, in your heart and your memory.

I've sent a little prayer/thought/wish up to ^Smokey^ and told him to keep an eye on Ruby. But ^Smokey^ was such a big, gentle sweetie, I bet he's already showing Ruby the best napping spots, the coolest water and the best place to watch us - the "furfamilies" they had to leave behind.

{{Hugs}} and my wish for strength for you as you go through the next few days or weeks. Hard as it is to believe it now, time really does help ease your pain.


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Thu, 05-01-2003 - 4:09pm
Ahh, Sweetie:

My name is Helen and I'm from the Pet Bereavement board here at ivillage. All of us over there know how truly awful it is when we lose our beloved pets. We call them fur kids because to many of us they are like our children. It sound like Ruby was your fur child too.

I don't know if anyone has shared the story of Rainbow Bridge with you yet but it's a beautiful story of where our pets go when they pass away. I'm fairly sure someone has told you about it but if not you come on over to Pet Bereavement and we'll make sure you get to see it. I know for a lot of us it has helped to know that our babies are in such a beautiful place and that we will get to see them again someday.

Your precious Ruby is now well and watching over you from the Bridge. She knows how much you love her and miss her with all your heart. I'm sure she smiles when she sees you are feeding all her brothers and sisters even though it makes you feel sad. She's given you a wonderful gift, a gift called love, that she wants you to pass on to all the other animals you meet in your life. By doing that you keep the love that you felt for her and she for you alive in your heart.

I know this is a really hard time for you and if you want to come over to Pet Bereavement and talk to some of us please do. We'll help you every way we can as you learn to live without Ruby by your side.

I'm sending many comforting hugs your way. You have such a beautiful heart and I'm certain Ruby is smiling down on you from the Bridge.


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Thu, 05-01-2003 - 9:44pm
at a time like this there is nothing anyone can say to make you feel better. yet i wanted to let you know you are not alone. a year ago i had to have my beloved cat ^samantha^ put to sleep because she was 22 years old, her kidneys had failed, she was so sick she could not even stand up. i am 50 years old and you know what i did? i went to work and could not stop crying either. i mean all that day and that night i cried myself to sleep. it's ok. it's normal. you go read that story about rainbow bridge, because that's where your ^ruby^ is now, with my ^samantha^ and many other animals that have passed on. it's a wonderful place for animals, and many, many, years from now, your ^ruby^ and you will see each other again. god bless you sweetie, ^samantha^'s mom, christy
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Fri, 05-02-2003 - 3:15am
I know your mom, sweetie, and you can believe it when we all tell you we really DO know exactly what you're going through. Ruby was a part of our family of pets, it hurts us that you've lost her. It hurts soooooo much to lose them, and nothing really replaces them. I hope the joy of having Ruby eventually will outweigh all the pain you're going through right now. Just remember she is waiting for you at Rainbow Ridge now, there are all those other well-loved dogs up there with her, and where they are they are no longer sick or in pain. They're just all playing and running around together, your Ruby is now up there with my childhood pets, Pepper, Cocoa and Charlie Brown, and with Punjab, Sophie, and Sambo, and all the other pets we've all lost. I've always thought the price we pay for having them with us is that we know someday we're going to lose them. But it really is better to have them and lose them than never have them at all. Can I add a couple of wonderful verses about dealing with the loss of a pet? I've written them here before, and they are so true.

"A Dog's Prayer" - by Beth Norman Harris. "Should the great Master see fit to deprive me of my health or sight....grant me the merciful boon of eternal rest, and I will leave you knowing with my last breath I drew, my fate was ever safest in your hands."

"Grieve not, nor speak of me with tears, but laugh and talk of me as if I were beside you...I loved you so....'twas Heaven here with you." Isla Paschal Richardson

Ruby loved being with you, it's so nice knowing a pet is YOUR dog. I'm glad you have other doggies there to pet right now, it really does help. We'll all be thinking of you, you take care.



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Sat, 05-03-2003 - 10:14pm
I am so sorry about your loss. We lost our Sierra on Friday, May 2, 2003. She too just became sick within a few days and died in her sleep. I have two little girls (5) and (7) who miss her dearly. I made them a photo collage of the fun time that they had together, this way they can always remember the fun they had. (Sierra loved playing in the snow with them.)

Take Care

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Sun, 05-04-2003 - 2:43am
Hi, Sweetheart. I am so very sorry for your loss of precious Ruby. I, too, one month ago today lost my kitty cat, Daisy. Like everything you said, too, Daisy was MINE and that is what made her so special. I, like you, love all of my animals, but honestly no one can compare to my Daisy, just like sweet Ruby. Please check out the Pet Bereavement support board; that is the only thing that got me through this ordeal. I am now 23 and Daisy was 17, so you can see I've had her a long time, but when I was 10 I lost a kitty (one of Daisy's daughters actually!) to a road accident - well, she was hit by a car, and that was so, so hard. (I stayed home from the fourth grade four THREE days!! Can't believe mom was OK with it!) ...I only wish I had this site back then.

Please know that Ruby left for her journey (until she meets you again - which fortunately will be a very long time from now, just like Daisy and me!) with SO MUCH love in her heart. Even if you didn't have a long goodbye, Ruby knows how much you love love love her, and she watches over you now. In fact, she and Daisy are probably chillin' since Daisy can show her all of the best places on the clouds where she can watch you! It's so hard, sweetie, but you will be okay. Just know Ruby is in a better place at Rainbow Bridge, FEELING SO MUCH BETTER NOW and with a whole bunch of new friends! She is still with you in your heart, and trust me, that makes such a difference. You gave her, from what I can tell, the most glorious, wonderful life. What more could she have asked for, really? Please, if you ever want to chat with an outsider, feel free to email (jobuhosky@aol.com) I remember vividly what I went through when I was 10, and now I'm only 23. At this age, there's a good chance this is the hardest thing we've gone through in life, and it's a big thing. It was the people on ivillage who helped me through, so we'll be here for you, too.

Lots of love,


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Sun, 05-04-2003 - 10:39am
I am so sorry for the loss of Ruby. I lost my Doberman Pinscher to accidental anti-freeze poisoning last year. The first days alone are the hardest. Always remember that you helped Ruby have a great life. Dogs are extremely intelligent, and Ruby KNEW that you loved her.
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Mon, 05-05-2003 - 8:33pm

Whenever a puppy is born on earth an angel waits to welcome her puppy into the world and take her under her wings.

Angels like to visit their dogs when they are sleeping. Maybe you saw your dogs feet moving in her sleep. Maybe she was off running and playing with her angel.

All dogs bring the gift of unconditional love into the world and in that way every dog is an angel.

From time to time when a certain person and a certain dog meet something magical happens and it is as if they have knowc eachother before. Each knows what the other is thinking and feeling. That person has found their forever dog and that dog has found her forever person.

Your forever dog and you may have shared sunsets together and walks and travels and snuggles and hugs. A forever dog and their forever person will share all their secret hopes and dreams that are told only to a very best friend.

A dog can never really be seperated from their forever person. Neither time or space can come between them. So when the dog comes to the end of her eartly life and must go on without her forever person the guardian angel becomes a loving bridge that connects the two friends for as long as that person remains on earth.

Sometimes dogs will cross that bridge to visit their forever person on earth. You can never tell where they will turn up. You may sense four paws walking next to you in the park or hear a familiar voice in Christmas carols. So if you see the blanket rumpled after your afternoon nap it is very possible that your forever dog has come back for a small visit to nap beside you. Your forever dog will even welcome your new dog friend and may come back to show him the best spots to buy bones or the places to lay in the sun or watch for your return at the end of the day.

One day the bridge that your forever dog has crossed so many times will appear to you and with the happy heart of a person who is coming home you will cross the bridge and find yourself welcomed by all the animal friends you knew while on earth. In the middle of all that love your forever dog will be waiting for you. The angels will smile and hold you both knowing that a forever dog and person have found each other once more.

I am so sorry for your loss. I am glad you feel comfortable mourning the loss of your dear friend. We just lost two of our dogs and so I understand how painful a loss this is for you. I hope you find some solace in the angel story - I know that I did. I believe in the magic of dogs and your Ruby obviously touched your life and was a dear, dear friend to you.

My thoughts and prayers are with you.