Torn about our dog :(

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Registered: 04-22-2013
Torn about our dog :(
Tue, 04-23-2013 - 11:06pm

I am battling with the decision about keeping our dog and everyday brings a new emotion. We rescued him so I won't take him back to a shelter, I am hoping that with time and patience the right situation will arise or else we will learn to live with it. 

He is a sweet dog, he is just BIG and still acts like a puppy even though he is 2 1/2. And we will have a newborn in November and I just cant imagine dealing with him on the daily.

Advice or encouragement ???

In Success,  Katherine at


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Registered: 11-21-2001
Wed, 04-24-2013 - 2:29pm

Hi Katherine and Welcome to the Board.  I'm Laura and I have a 7YO lab/mix Cleo.

Congratulations on your upcoming new arrival.  I'm sorry you are going through this right now.  How long have you had your dog?  What breed is he?  Why did you a dog in the first place?  Maybe with some answers I can give you some additional advice.

What I can tell you is that I have had dogs for many years....of different breeds.  I'm a "big dog" person so have never had small dogs.  I will admit that I'm a little over the top when it comes to my dogs...they have all been like my children.  Saying that...there have definitely been some challenges.

I lost my beloved dalmatian ^Samantha^ about a year and a half ago.  She was 16YO when she died.  At that time, as now, DH and I owned two businesses about a hour apart, so we were working from early morning to early evening.  I would come home to a mess almost every day...Samantha was incontinent towards the end so every day was a struggle....coming home from a long day, cleaning tons of towels, carrying her up when she messed on the floor.  I often got frustrated but was overall happy to do it for her...we had her from the time she was a puppy.

When we moved to Virginia in 2007 we brought our two dogs: Samantha and a yellow lab, ^Valentine^.  We lost Valentine to kidney failure that year...she was only 8 years old.  But, being a lab, she was a "puppy": to the end.  She was my "heart" dog and I miss her every single day.

Only you can decide what you can and can't tolerate.  To me, having a dog act like a puppy is a blessing...they get old way too soon...and leave us way too soon.

There is lots of information out there on how to prepare your home for a baby when you have a dog.  However, if you really feel that ths is something that you do not want to do then it may be better for you to try and rehome him.  I hate to advise that because I'm sure that your dog has bonded with you and your family and leaving you would turn his world upside down.  But if you truly feel that you cannot handle this your dog will suffer; he will sense your frustration.

I truly hope that you can work this out; if you have any specific questions or needs please don't hesitate to post....I'm sure we will be able to help you.  Good luck.