can't cope with the loss

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Registered: 12-31-1969
can't cope with the loss
Fri, 09-07-2012 - 9:02pm
I'm still having a very difficult time accepting the unexpected death of my precious chihuahua Chico. He died on the operating table having a tooth extracted. I just do not know how to come to terms with this sorrow. Chico was that special pet you have in a lifetime. I wish I never agreed to the surgery. He would be with me today if he didn't have the surgery. The vet said the abcessed tooth should be removed and the pros outweighed the cons .... But I miss him so much!!
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Registered: 04-13-2011
Sat, 09-08-2012 - 1:00am

{{{Chico's mom}}}

I am so sorry for the loss of your sweet baby.  I lost my Pogo under the same sort of circumstances, save for the fact that I did bring him home after the extraction.   I lost him two days later--he never fully recovered from the anesthesia and his kidneys completely shut down.  I too made the choice to have his teeth done, knowing full well he was suffering from chronic renal failure.  We (the vet and I) thought the  reason for his lower kidney function might have been due to his awful gum disease and perhaps extracting the bad ones would make a difference.  Well, it did make a difference--for two days Pogo could not eat and could not get enough water.   I had no idea what to do--I tried to force feed him, I left water all over the house, I wrapped him in heating was horrifying.  Finally, after watching him take two steps and collapse on the bathroom floor, I knew I had to take him to the emergency clinic rather than his own vet.  He never came home from that place...

Please don't blame yourself~~you didn't know.  You were trying to do the best for Chico, trying to give him some comfort and I honestly do believe he knows that.   You sound like a wonderful mom and I am sure Chico cherishes you for that--what a lucky dog to have had so much love!!   Trust me, I still wonder what would have happened if I had taken Pogo elsewhere for a second opinion, or if I would have just taught myself how to brush his teeth, but, unfortunately, I didn't.  I had adopted him at 8 years old and was only given a year and a half with him, but it was the best year and a half I have ever had!  Yes, I think the "what ifs" will always tug at my heart, but I also realize how blessed I was to have been able to share a piece of my life with him.  I don't think he blames me for not knowing what to do, and for that, I am learning not to blame myself.  I think Chico would want that for you, too. 

Please be kind to yourself--you deserve that......


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Registered: 04-19-2008
Wed, 09-12-2012 - 6:30pm

{{{^Chico's^ Mom}}}  Please be kind to your shattered heart.  You did what any loving furmom would do.  You needed to make sure your baby was happy and healthy.  Right now, you must be completely numb... trying to make sense out of this senseless situation.  {{{gentle hugs}}} 

How I wish I had the magic words to ease the pain in your broken heart.  Sadly, there is nothing anyone can say to heal that gaping hole.  But please know all of our shoulders are there for you.... just like all our ^furangels^ are with ^Chico^, letting him know you will be okay... in time.

Please give your sweet Pepe an extra snuggle from all of us. 


With my heart,