Very sad, lost both cats in two months

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Very sad, lost both cats in two months
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Sun, 02-14-2010 - 11:30pm

My DH and I are married, no kids, and our two boy cats Rudy and Sammy were our kids. I got Rudy on Election Day of 1996 before I even met DH, and then together we got Sammy right before Christmas of 1998. They were buddies and they were our boys. Sammy was definitely the "alpha male" who was super playful and communicative, whereas Rudy was just a simple guy, who just wanted to lay in the sun and snuggle. Sammy had a strong bond with DH and Rudy was definitely "my" cat.

We discovered right after Thanksgiving that Sammy had a cancerous tumor in his mouth. We tried a session of radiation that was unsuccessful and eventually he couldn't eat at all. We wound up having to put him to sleep two days before Christmas because the main artery in his mouth had ruptured. He went so quickly and we were not expecting it.

My husband really wanted to get another kitty to help Rudy not feel so lonely so we got a 1 year old girl named Chloe, who is a sweetheart. She mostly annoyed Rudy but for the most part he seemed to be doing okay. All that Rudy seemed to want to do was eat, lay in the sun and snuggle with me. Last week we had a massive snowstorm where we lived and we couldn't go to work for a few days, so it was great to be at home with both kitties. Thursday night, I wound up having to sleep in our guest room and Rudy hopped right up and snuggled next to my face, headbutting me a few times.

A few hours later, I woke up and found Rudy limp and lifeless on the floor outside the bedroom. He had died.

Now, I'm just at a loss, we lost one of our boys and now "my" boy Rudy, who was my total buddy for 14 years. I miss him so much. Bedtime is awful because I know he's not going to be meowing at me to get in the bed, only to hop up and rub against me and then curl up next to me, only to wake me up the next morning for food. I can't stop crying. Today was my husband's birthday and wanted to go to petsmart to just "look" at cats. This lady from the rescue org took us back to take a peek but I just got too upset. Now I ruined my husband's birthday and feel like an awful wife because I cried n the middle of petsmart. I just can't stop crying I really miss my kitties and wish they were here.

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Registered: 05-24-2009
Mon, 02-15-2010 - 9:53am

Whatever you do, don't feel bad for crying! I have been going through that myself. My hubby and my family have made me feel like a total weirdo for grieving as much as I have. And believe me, it's not weird. I know how hard it is to have lost your snuggle baby. I lost mine 10 days ago and it still feels new.

The thing is, you probably weren't ready to get a new baby yet. I got another kitty mainly for my kids because they had such an attachment to 'Scilla. Right now, I have 'Scilla's sister, Daphne and we have been grieving together. I'm sure you didn't ruin your hubby's birthday.

(((big hug))) Take care of yourself!

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Registered: 05-28-2008
Tue, 02-16-2010 - 6:02pm

Hi, I am so sorry for the loss of 2, I can't even imagine.



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Wed, 02-17-2010 - 10:39am
Thanks for the kind words. DH and I had a long talk the other day and he apologized for pushing the issue with going to look at kitties. He actually just wanted to "look" at the kitties because he loves going to pet them and play with them and he had no intention of bringing another one that day. He also said he felt bad and didn't mean to upset me, that he really didn't listen to when I said "I'm not ready." He's been really sweet and considerate about everything. On a side note, I'm getting a little better everyday. One of my parents just had surgery and I've been spending time with family and that helps, and the new kitty Chloe is a sweetheart, it's been a big comfort. Feeding time is wierd because Rudy was very "vocal" about being fed and so DH has taken over that for me. I'm very lucky. I do want to get another cat but I think we need to take some time with everything we've been through to truly welcome another kitty into our home with an open mind.