What is the "protocol" for someone's pet loss

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-13-2012
What is the "protocol" for someone's pet loss
Wed, 07-31-2013 - 8:35am

I am not a pet owner but wondered what is the proper thing to do when an acquaintance loses his or her long term pet companion. Do you send a card or flowers or something else?

I am wondering because I have a friend at work, who I don't see often outside of work, may have to put her dog that she has had for 15 years down (cancer) and I don't know if I need to say or do anything or not.

Community Leader
Registered: 04-19-2008

Dear Turkeyplease, welcome to our little corner of the web.  {{[hugs}}}  What a sweet soul you are to be asking about helping your friend / coworker. 

Gosh, there's really no "protocol" for helping a grief stricken soul ... but please know that your friend will be losing a big piece of her heart.  (15 years is a long and well loved life)  We furmoms consider our pets as our furbabies, so for us, it would be like losing a 15 year old child.  (only our children have fur)

If you are able, perhaps a card or flowers would be lovely.  Just letting your friend know that you understand and will be there for her would be amazing. 

Thank you so much for being such a supportive friend.   Please let us know if we can help.

With heart hugs,
Lin, Whisper's Mom

With my heart,
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-14-2013

When my mother's companion of 18 years died it was like losing a member of the family for her. Her vet sent a kind card as did a few of the ladies in her church group. It meant everything to her that someone cared enough to send a card.