New pet soon after loss
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|Thu, 12-07-2006 - 12:24am|
We lost our baby boy on Friday, 12/1/06. He was a 2 1/2 yr old mini dachshund, Buddy. Yesterday, 12/5/06 our vet called. She had a 2 year old female mini dachshund that was in a rescue and needed a home. She said that she's seen this before and sometimes it helps to get another pet right away. We can take her on a "trial" basis. My husband and I discussed it and decided that it was too quiet here and we needed something to love and to love us back. We know she won't replace Buddy and it wouldn't be fair to her to expect her to be like him. She has enough differences to help with that. He was 6-7 lbs, she's around 11-12. He was black/tan, she's light red. She's very sweet, loves to cuddle and kiss. Very quiet and adorable. Problem is, I don't know if I'm ready. My husband told the vet that we'll make this work. I want it to but I'm having a difficult time getting close to her. We use to refer to each other as mommy and daddy and Buddy knew who we meant. Tonight he told Ella to "go to mommy" and it cut like a knife. I don't feel like her "mommy". I feel like she's a guest in my home. She was laying on me earlier and I was afraid to look at her. As long as I didn't see her I could imagine it was my Buddy. I'm very careful not to use phrases that I use to use with Buddy. Those were our special terms and phrases. If I slip I feel awkward.
Has anybody else gone through this? Does it get any better? Will I come to love this adorable little girl?