Two Boxes for the shelter

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Registered: 12-21-2006
Two Boxes for the shelter
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Tue, 04-15-2008 - 9:16pm

I don't know if this counts as "a journey towards healing." It's a hurdle.. and I don't know that I feel any more healed. I'm feeling sad. I'm also realizing that this much has taken me more than 6 years to do. Six years to pack 2 boxes. There's so much more. Nobody would understand what it's been like just to do two.

So many other things have expired over the years. Meds, needles, food... things that I'd meant to send but couldn't bring myself to. A box full of lactated ringers. They were good for a long time, but not long enough for me to be able to send stuff. I wanted to be able to give things to those who could use them. People like me. but I couldnt' cope.

two boxes. It's only two boxes. and I had to stop. and the boxes have been packed for several years. But they didn't get out the door. This is the stuff I'd already packed! Now re-packed again. There's so much in the "not even close to packing it EVER" category.

I wish somebody knew how much this is killing me. I wish somebody knew how hard its been. Years pass and I'm not all right. I make steps. Small very very small steps. and then I have to stop. Or I'll end my life. literally. So I stop. for now.

I've stayed away from making new human friends. They'll die too. My choice. One that generally I'm glad about. I have people in my life who are ok. but not that I'd choose to really be friends with. Acquaintances. Many with traits that, in the past, would cause me to never talk to any of them. People who are bigots, or hostile, or dishonest. None directed towards me but I wouldn't be friends with people like that before. now, for distraction, since there is no one else -by choice- why not. If any of them die, it would be sad. I'd miss their presence. But not like this. Never ever like this. I don't ever want to feel like this again. Not ever. It's worth it to me to be isolated for the rest of my life if it means never feeling this ever again.

But it doesn't make the old pain go away. I still keep feeling that. and there are times like now, when it'd be really great if I did have a friend who would help with the strength to make this easier. In a few months I'll have "recovered" from packing these two boxes. I don't know how long it'll be before I do more. I want to be done with them but it's dangerous for me to push myself. the memories are overwhelming. and nobody would understand. People who come over always comment about items they see. the boxes packed that never move. That if I do a little it means I can keep going, or they ask when I'm getting rid of things that they still see. I won't print here what I want to say to them.

this really isn't an end to this post but I have to stop for now. i'm dizzy and I feel sick. and I really realy realy really really wish I was dead. this is what will happen every time I do this. I"ll never have an easier time with it. there will never be anyone (emotionally) to help me do it better. it's not going to be ok. this is my life. for as long as it will last now.

again, i know it's not a great end to this post but I'm going to stop here anyway. thank you, all, for reading.

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Registered: 12-01-2003
Wed, 04-16-2008 - 7:41am
I am so sorry for the pain you are going through,is there someone you can talk to ??We are always here to listen if that helps you


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Wed, 04-16-2008 - 2:17pm

My heart breaks reading this.


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Registered: 11-16-2006
Wed, 04-16-2008 - 2:40pm
That was very nice Suzy,I hope she comes back and reads this


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Registered: 12-21-2006
Wed, 04-16-2008 - 3:29pm

Thank you both for your very kind replies.

Last night was extremely difficult for me. It's why I make so little progress with this. Because it affects me that strongly and I have to stop. And then I'm afraid to do more. It takes months before I get the courage to try to do more. I was really really upset last night. I'm not as "desperate" today. Still sad of course. I'm always sad.

I did try calling people last night. Many. None were home or had time. Partly because I really do only have acquaintances in my life now. I've avoided making close friends since my pets died. I don't want to be close to anything again. My choice, and for the most part one that I think has been wise. I'm friendly with people but it's superficial.

As for counselors, I saw about 5 or 6 different ones over the course of several years and they all made things much worse. I won't ever talk about this with any kind of counselor again.

I need to tape the boxes, address them, and send them off to the shelter. Probably tomorrow. There's still a lot more stuff. Some that could go out the door *now* if I could bring myself to deal with it. Much more that I wouldn't be able to part with yet. And then there's always "but what if I get more pets. I'd need this." And I would regret getting rid of those things. I would want to have those things for them. The perfect/favorite items. But I don't think I ever will get another pet. So I hope, someday, I can find someplace special for those things too.

Thank you again for your comments. I really do appreciate your taking the time to reply.

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Registered: 11-16-2006
Wed, 04-16-2008 - 3:41pm
There is no reason you have to give the stuff away,if it makes you feel better please keep it , I still want you to talk to someone as I am worried about you,where do you live?


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Wed, 04-16-2008 - 4:44pm

{{{missingmyfriends}}}

With my heart,
 
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Registered: 03-03-2008
Sun, 04-20-2008 - 12:23pm

I think that if its possible you should take the things to the shelter in person.

Janice, Petey, Schmitty, and ^^Buddy^^

 

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Registered: 04-30-2008
Wed, 04-30-2008 - 6:30pm

I know how deeply you must have loved your sweet animals and how much you miss them.